Anyone else feel like they have to constantly entertain their toddlers?

[noneedtoberudedear]

Because I do and I’m not sure if it’s normal...

I have 16 month old twins and I really struggle with feeling guilty if I’m not constantly paying them attention. I feel like I should always be reading/playing/talking to them. I feel bad every time I so much as check my phone. Perhaps I’ve read too many Montessori books but it’s really stressing me out.

I’m a single parent and I’ve really got no
Choice but to plonk them in front of CBeebies to shower/do my make up. Yet I still feel guilty.

Please tell me I’m not the only one? How do I chill out?

I was exactly the same, my DC seemed to want my attention all the time . As they get older they will start to entertain themselves more. Don't feel guilty about putting cbeebies on for a bit so you can do something for you. Do you have anyone to help out ? Being a single parent with twins must be exhausting

@Runnerduck34 they’ll play together for a bit when I’m doing stuff, but if I actually sit down then forget it!
I think I feel like I over compensate because I’m the only person here.

Their dad does come round but I’m on my own a lot of the time. My parents help out, which I’m endlessly grateful for.

CBeebies is my babysitter and I have 2 children who are 3 and 1 who have a hands on dad. No fucks given. I need to get stuff done sometimes.

Please step away from the books and focus on what the many many many achievements (large or small) you have each day. You are a single parent of toddler twins. You’re a superhero and the odd episode of bing is not going to hurt anyone.

my baby is 15 months old and he is always begging for my attention when I am trying to do something or holding on my legs asking me to pick him up

I cannot do anything at that stage and I also wondered whether this is normal

The most exhausting period I feel personally so far is from 11 months till now and I don't know how long it will take till he can play on his own for at least a period of time

I feel like a brainless person sometimes having to stand constantly around him, don't get me wrong I enjoy playing and entertaining and laughing with toddler but it is exhausting

Same here 👐

You're allowed time to humanise and if that means checking your phone for 15 minutes to catch up with the outside world while they play together that's totally fine! As long as they're safe and happy, momma needs a break too! X

I'm a married SAHM of one, with lots of support, and I still leave my toddler alone while I get on with things.

It's nothing to feel bad about. In fact, I think it's good for toddlers to learn to entertain themselves for a bit.

I assume it's very much harder with twins and no help. Sounds like you're doing a marvellous job... Except maybe for being a bit hard on yourself!