Desperate for help please

[Thewalker75]

I’ve posted in potty training a couple of times but no luck hoping someone might see this here.

Ds3 started potty training this week. He is now holding in wees to the point where at 4am and he’s crying in his room, writhing around on the bed saying he needs a wee.

During the day he dances around crying holding his willy saying he needs a wee but won’t sit on the potty. If he starts doing a wee he panics and stops himself and gets himself in a right state.

He’s screaming now so I’ve got to go can anyone give advice please we don’t know what to do.

Have you made potty time an exciting treat? Books/toys etc? I used to have mini musical instruments and bubbles next to mine because they were a great distraction (and you can't hold a poo in if you're blowing). I always gave DS a chocolate button or two when he was successful too.

Good luck OP, it does get better.

Yes got star charts books special DVD’s etc even resorted to chocolate at breakfast yesterday but when he’s in this state nothing works. He’s not evan relaxing when we put a nappy on at bedtime. So he’s getting no relief.

Is this something he just has to figure out himself?

How about peeing in the bath or shower might that help? It sounds like you need to back away from it for a bit.

What about those special seats that go over the top of a regular toilet with the stepladder? My Dd hated the potty but was happy with that.

I agree with trying a wee in the shower or even outside if you have somewhere suitable.
I’d put a timeline on it eg 2 more days and if no improvement I’d stop for a couple of months then try again.

Hi might not be ready. Leave it for now and try again in a few weeks. When they're ready potty training will take a couple of days at most. I left it as late as possible with DS, took about 3 days, no problems and no accidents n

Is he 3? Sounds like he’s not ready yet. Maybe stop for now and try again in a few months.

He’s just turned 3. He woke up on Sunday and said no more nappies so We were taking his lead.

He won’t go in the bath. Kept asking to get out so he can sit on the potty, sits on it for a millisecond until wee starts to come out and he panics and gets up again.

He doesn’t want to use the big toilet either.

I thought he would relax tonight when I put a nappy on him so he could go but it was dry when I checked it earlier.

I don’t even think putting him in nappies will help now. He’s got one on still now from nighttime and his behaviour has been atrocious. He’s running around downstairs crying saying he needs a wee and is holding himself.

It shouldn’t be this traumatic should it??

Has he had a bath? Maybe he'd pee in there. Restart in a few weeks. X

Put a ping pong ball in the loo as a target to pee at?
Is there any slightly older male who would go with him and make it a game? Sorry but boys love this 🙄😆