baby attachment

[emmythemummy]

Soooo I would love some tips/advice.
First of all, how hard is being a parent?! It's the biggest emotional rollercoaster of my life. Everyone is probably like well duhhh, but I just think we all need that recognition!

Anyway. I have a beautiful 11 week old daughter.
She has been pretty much the perfect baby since she born. I hate saying that swell, but its true. Apart from a few hard days in the first few weeks I sailed through week by week loving every second.
Things were amazing and now, at 11 weeks old when everyone else baby seems to settle, she's just took a huge turn.
She has just started a leap today, but she's been like this for a good week.
She is breastfed. Her dad was with me the first 6 weeks of her life every day but he's now back at work, so its just me and her until he comes home. She used to fall asleep with him, cuddle, be bathed etc no problems but now, if he even LOOKS at her, and I mean just looks and says hello she starts screaming. Never mind him trying to hold her.
So its taking a toll on us both. I can't get anything done, I can't even shower because its not just a cry, its a bright purple face choking scream until he hands her back to me.
She has been breastfed since birth no problems and loves her milk and feeding, however I have noticed recently she has been fussy at the breast...upset when milk comes out but then upset when she's not feeding on it.
Is this a phase or is this the start of the whole, I ONLY want my mummy for the next year.
She also won't take a bottle despite trying since 4 weeks old. No dummy either so she relies a lot on me for comfort.

Anyone else experienced any of this? Particularly the dad part? I feel so sorry for him, he told me today he isn't excited to come home from work and see her because it makes him feel rubbish. I really want her to take to him, but crying out is not working its just awful for everyone.

Advice SOOOO welcome Xox

Well, I dunno about Breastfeeding but I've got an 8 week old who is crying with his dad and will only really settle with me or DS1. Neither of my sons are 'easy' babies. It's like they were born opinionated.

DS1 would scream when with his dad. DH just figured that after a while babies clock who their primary carer is, and, depending on the temperament of the child, they will object accordingly when with someone else. Some babies are absolutely fine when given to strangers for example, some would not be happy at all! DH will rock baby, play music, feed baby etc, and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. But what's certain is that your child will eventually get familiar with daddy, helped further by your DH not recoiling against spending time with baby no matter how disheartening. Tell him to hang in there!

Now we have DS2, it's more of the same but I still hand him over to his dad and get whatever I need to done. The crying is hard to deal with, and I try to stick to one task at a time so it's not prolonged. For example, I shower as quick as possible which can take around 10mins, then I quickly dress and hold DS2 before giving him back to DH so I can brush my teeth. Some people would say it's best just to leave them to cry until you're done but personally, I can't. It's important for DH to try and talk to baby calmly, or try to sing something, or whatever really. Holding baby with little interaction won't facilitate the creation of a bond.

Excuse my grammar, I've just ended an almighty double Bed'xit (DS1 is 4) which went on for hours. I'm here to unwind and DS2's cries (from being held by his dad) are still ringing in my ears. I can't fault DH, his attitude has been very supportive. He is much calmer about our non-sleepers than I presently am.