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Playdo · 31/01/2020 16:33

Does anyone else find playdates one big bloody hassle?
I think my daughters must be highly strung-they are clingy and jealous as soon as they see me talking to or interacting with another human being.
The eldest one shouts over my conversation with other adults at 5000 decibels to ask insignificant questions, whilst the youngest cries and clings on to me for dear life.
I end up trying to split my attention between the adult(s) and them and it's hard work.
I can't meet up with any mum who is needing a bit of a shoulder or someone to talk to when I have the DCs with me as she just won't get a word in. Her DCs seem to be able to occupy themselves for 20 minutes though.
My stress levels soar at playdates and I either end up hot and red faced picking up and putting down a clingy 2 year old whilst snapping at the 4 year old, or ignoring all the adults.
May aswell stay at fucking home.
Other peoples kids go off and play; mine just want my attention ALL THE TIME.
I work part-time so hardly like they're in nursery 5 days a week. I've given up.
Looks like we're stopping in.
I am lonely and wanting to reach out and make more mum friends, but this is seemingly impossible. In the evenings, I'm too knackered to go out. I just want to cry under a duvet and drink hot chocolate.

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 31/01/2020 17:21

Oh Playdo that sounds a bit intense.

How is the 4 yo while you are at work? Does she go to Nursery and how is she there?

Playdo · 31/01/2020 18:26

Fine at nursery- she loves it.
It's just like "Mum is here, here to pander to our every want and need."
Drives me crazy.
DH is also needy of my attention. It's like they're all competing with each other.
They all fuction perfectly well when I'm not around.

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JiltedJohnsJulie · 01/02/2020 10:11

Could DH take them out today for a bit? Sounds like you need some time on your own.

Have you spoken to DH about how you feel or your GP?

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Modestandatinybitsexy · 01/02/2020 10:43

If it's bugging you I think there are things you can do to take a bit more control in the situation.

Teach your 4yo to wait until adults are talking. There's a good article here that could help www.mother.ly/what-to-do-when-child-interrupts-2590186758.amp.html

I think if it's an issue with your DH as well look at your reactions to neediness and make yourself slightly less available, finish what you're doing first, ask them how they can solve the issue without you etc. Like you say you know they can do it when you're not around!

Playdo · 02/02/2020 09:38

Some great ideas in the article

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