First time away from toddler - 48hrs

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Go easssyyy on me please!

I know I should have had plenty of time away by now but this will be the first time I’ve left my toddler overnight.

She’s at nursery as I work 4 days and I have nights out with friends but I’ve got a stupid worry that being away will break her trust and bond with me.

She’s great with her dad and grandparents but we have a brilliant bond and I don’t want to lose that. I think because we don’t get loads of one on one time together anyway I’m more worried.

Did anyone else leave their toddler for the first time at this age (just over 2)? I feel I should have done it before in small doses first!

Has anyone got any advice to make me feel less guilty

No advice but sounds as though we’re in a very similar situation and I’ll be leaving DS for 48 hrs in a couple of months. He turns two soon. He often wakes at night or in the early morning and I’m worried how he’ll be if I’m not being there, even though my DH shares care of him and he adores his grandparents too. I breastfeed still too, though am trying to cut down gradually, and so I’m usually the one to comfort him at night. (I’m already excited about the great night’s sleep I’ll hopefully get too though!)

First time I’ll be leaving my toddler (2yr8m) for more than 4-5hrs is when I give birth in the next few weeks. Honestly I’m a little worried but I know she is pretty resilient and we have played it as “it’s going to be a bit strange for a couple of days but you will have lots of fun with granny”. Hopefully my husband will be able to do bedtime so that will be normal for her but if I’m in labour he will stay with me

She’ll be fine. It takes a hell of a lot more than a one night sleep over to break the bond of two solid years of loving parenting.
You have to really fuck up to break that bond. And you going on a night out isn’t one of those things.
My DS is 2.5 and stays overnight at his dads house once a week and he is my little shadow/best friend/reason I can’t have a piss in peace.

You’ll be fine x

I’m on my way back from my first work trip away (just one night) since dd was born (nearly 3 years ago). I’ve left her twice overnight before but that was for volunteering with kids so not a break. Last night I slept 8.5hrs with no interruptions and had a nice hotel breakfast talking about adult stuff with colleagues. And got some good work done too. I cannot wait to see my DDs now but it really was fine. And the nearly 3yo is still bf too, she just manages when I am not there.

@Daybydayagain yeah exactly the same! I know it should happen but dd wakes early and only really settles with me.

@Mrsducky88 it’s good that bedtime will be the same. Exciting that your new lo will be here soon though! And you will have your mind in other things knowing your toddler is safe and happy with family . Hope you can get some rest and time to yourself before then?

@PawPatrolMakesMeDrink thank you! Ive been on nights out it’s just 2 nights and 2 full days but there’s no other option unless I don’t go so I’m struggling a bit with that. Thank you for your reassurance though that makes a lot of sense and I’ll be reminded of that when I’m away.

@Orangedaisy that actually sounds lovely! I think if you are going to do it you might as well enjoy it and come back feeling refreshed. This unfortunately isn’t an ideal trip and I’m not sure how much sleep I will get in a shared room (long story) but I totally get what you are saying. I think we would all feel differently if it was a spa weekend or a night away with my husband!