Christening but DH and I different denominations

[Lily2209]

Does anyone know of or have any experience of a high Christian service as opposed to choosing a set denomination such as catholic? My husband was baptised CofE and I have been bought up catholic. We really want to christen our child but neither of us wish to ignore our own faith so a reasonable solution seems to be an overall Christian ceremony with a godparent from each side (reflecting each of our two faiths) so our baby can decide a way forward as they get older. I just don’t know if such a ceremony exists and if so, how we would approach...

I think you will have to go with one or the other unless you go down a naming ceremony route instead.

I am RC, DCs were baptised RC. DH was christened CoE but it means nothing to him. DCs have one set of CoE and one set of RC godparents each.

What are the schools like in your area?
Will their be advantage to being one or the other?

Probably easier to go from Catholic to Anglican than the other way around?

I think catholic schools are better but to be honest don’t feel right asking my husband to he swayed for that reason, even though I totally get your suggestion! We had heard about using a ‘high church’ but I cannot find much online...

A "high" Church means, as you probably know, an Anglican one at the Catholic end of the very wide spectrum of Anglican practice. Those who worship there probably believe everything that a Roman Catholic believes except the 1870 dogmas about Papal infallibility and the Immaculate Conception of the BVM. They probably also believe in consubstantiation, that is to say a spiritual rather than an actual change in the bread and wine offered to become the Blessed Sacrament at the Mass. (They may describe this service as just that or the Eucharist but never just as the Lord's Supper and certainly do not believe that in that service people are simply remembering what Our Lord did on Maundy Thursday.) The Blessed Sacrament will almost certainly be reserved and honoured by genuflection and prayer before it. Such worshippers will recognise all 7 Sacraments of the Church. Given that Baptism is a universal Sacrament and that both Churches recognise the other's Baptism as valid - it being done with water and in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit - you may find such a Church a convenient compromise as you suggest. I am sure there would be no problem - from the Church's point of view - about having Roman Catholic godparents. You would obviously have to find out if they had any reservations. You, as a confirmed Roman Catholic, will also be permitted by Anglican Canon law to take Communion as a person in good standing with your own Church - the reverse would not be true, of course, for your husband. Good luck with your decision and whatever you decide I would wish you a wonderful day as your baby is received into the Christian community.

Baptism is welcoming the child into the Church, but it can also be a welcome into a particular church community. Do you think you are more likely to be involved in your local CofE church, or a local RC one? Might their grandparents take them to a particular church? (e.g. with toddler groups, Sunday School, Messy Church, youth clubs, etc.) It's not a deal-breaker but it might be nice to be baptised in the same church you'd be more involved with.

CofE churches will also vary in when they allow baptised children to take communion (a few might have something like preparation for First Communion, but most would want the child to be older and have been confirmed, which might involve confirmation classes). But then once they're older (teenage/adult) CofE churches are much less likely to 'check' if someone presents themselves at the rail for communion.
So if it's important that your child can receive the sacrament that might be a consideration.