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Pram refusal

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meredithgrey1 · 30/01/2020 15:19

My 7 month old absolutely hates the pram and will scream within 5 minutes of being put in it. She used to be sort of ok if I timed it just right for a nap but now it doesn’t matter if she’s just woken up and is happy, or is sleepy and needs to go down, she will scream and scream until I get her out and carry her. Makes no difference whether I have her facing me or facing out, lying down, sitting up, half way between etc. I went for a walk with a friend yesterday who has a similar age baby and had to cut it short because DD insisted on being carried and I can’t physically do it for long, especially pushing a pram with one hand.

I feel like a prisoner and It’s definitely not helping my PND as I would love to go out for a walk, even just to the nearby shop, by there is just no way she’ll tolerate it. I feel awful but it’s making me wish away my last few weeks of maternity leave as I hate just being stuck in the house.

She’s always fine the second I pick her up, and hysterical the second I put her down. I’ve tried resolutely just not picking her up, and just soothing/singing/talking to her etc while I keep walking and she just keeps going.

Does anyone have any ideas?? Please don’t suggest a sling or carrier. We have a wrap sling that she loathes as well as a carrier that she will tolerate when my husband wears it but the strap on the carrier won’t tighten enough round my waist to be secure so it’s uncomfortable and her bottom half sort of bounces around so she doesn’t like it. Plus I’m only little and very weak and just can’t carry her for any length of time.

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Clangus00 · 30/01/2020 15:29

The buggy part of the pram? Reins to strap her into the pram so she can sit up and see the world?

meredithgrey1 · 30/01/2020 15:41

Yeah she's in the seat part, so I can sit her up in it (strapped in) but that doesn't seem to make a difference - she just wants to be held.

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SundayMorningSun · 30/01/2020 15:44

How is she with a carseat? Can you get adaptors to clip the carseat to the pram if she prefers it?

I know you said not to suggest carriers, but you might benefit from trying different ones at a sling library. Ill-fitting carriers and slings are awful, but it can be great if you find the right one.

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GummyGoddess · 30/01/2020 15:45

Hip seat if you don't want to get a fitted sling? You would get stronger if you carried her regularly.

Cdl84 · 30/01/2020 15:51

Have you tried clipping some toys to pushchair within her reach? My nearly 6 month old was like this but I just kept taking him out for short walks and has got much better in the last few weeks.

InDubiousBattle · 30/01/2020 16:01

7 month old don't insist on things or refuse to tolerate things! They cry and complain of course but you need to attach some toys to the pram, strap her in and go about your day. Keep pram journeys short if you can but remember that you're in charge here op, don't spend the last part of your mat leave stuck in all day, it won't harm her.

meredithgrey1 · 30/01/2020 16:08

You would get stronger if you carried her regularly.

I do carry her quite a lot, she's only just started tolerating being put down at all around the house - until a couple of weeks ago she'd be distraught if I put her down for even thirty seconds so I could have a wee. She never liked sitting in her bouncer, or lying on her playmat even with me sitting right next to her playing with her etc she always wanted to be held. But now she's able to sit up herself, try to crawl, and sit in a high chair she's a bit happier. It's just the pram left to get her used to but she seems to have such a strong dislike to it.

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meredithgrey1 · 30/01/2020 16:14

@InDubiousBattle when I say insist and refuse I mean she really screams, tears pouring down her face. She doesn't like the car seat either but I can't do anything about that so she just has to deal with it when I'm driving. I don't like pushing the pram with her hysterical like that. She's always preferred to be held, and so there have been times around the house I've had to just let her get on with it (or I'd never get dressed, go to the loo, eat lunch) but in the pram she will scream for as long as I push her, I've tried just carrying on but I'd love to know if there's anything I can do to make easier for her.

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Gingham17 · 13/12/2024 05:55

@meredithgrey1 how did you get on with this? My 8 month old is the same with the stroller and car seat x

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