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Can I stealth boast to you stranger about my newborn?

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YicketyYackMamasBack · 28/01/2020 13:01

I just want to voice (type) out loud how amazed I am with her. Because doing it in person to everyone can become annoying and I don’t want to annoy people.. except MN maybe?

But anyway, 4 weeks one the first week and a half was hard work, sleepless nights. But she’s never been a crier, just fussing at night with lots of feeding and changing. It was hard because we didn’t know what she wanted.

But now she wakes for feeds 2/3 times in the night, stirring a little, so we change her and feed her while she’s still half asleep then she’s straight back to sleep in her own bed, no co-sleeping as she was born early and only weighed 4lbs 13oz

It’s wonderful. Everyone told me to say goodbye to sleep, to eat one last meal with a knife and fork, to say goodbye to cooking proper meals and say hello to microwave meals.

She’s not clingy at all, she absolutely loves a cuddle and loves to lie on us, have tummy time on our chests, but then when I need to put her down to do something, like cook dinner or make myself lunch.. or even a cup of tea she’s can just go in her crib downstairs, or her bouncer and she doesn’t make a peep she will just look around until she gets tired then has a nap.

But I almost feel bad, or alien when someone automatically says “oh how are you finding the sleepless nights?” I either semi agree and just say their fine, or not too bad. But if I actually mention that she sleeps beautifully I get looked at like I’m from another planet and I feel almost guilty talking about it!

But yes, she beautiful. It was a hard pregnancy towards the end and I’ve really had a bad time with recovery and anxiety so I’m counting my lucky stars with this.

How long will it last, I wonder. I’m sure there will come a fussy point.. but it’s nice to just enjoy the early days🥰

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INeedNewShoes · 28/01/2020 13:07

DD was like this as well. I have to say, I kept fairly quiet about it especially to other parents of babies/young children. It just seems like rubbing their nose in it otherwise! And I can imagine any parents who are struggling with babies who aren't sleeping well will wince a little at your post.

Enjoy it though!; don't assume it will last forever or you'll be in for a surprise at some point. DD is now 2.8 and still a good sleeper but we have had rocky phases and it's more of a shock to the system when you're used to having good nights!

HollowTalk · 28/01/2020 13:10

Your baby sounds gorgeous, OP. Enjoy this lovely time with her.

Flowers
Mallowmarshmallow · 28/01/2020 13:11

DS was like that too. A total relaxed, lovely joy.

His younger DD on the other hand......!

Enjoy!

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DesLynamsMoustache · 28/01/2020 13:12

DD was like this and still is! I loved the newborn phase and found it a breeze because of her Smile

NotSoThinLizzy · 28/01/2020 13:12

My 3rd is doing this too 😊 we have been so lucky as my 2 year old still dosent sleep through. I keep it quiet too.

DesLynamsMoustache · 28/01/2020 13:13

And yes, you learn to just make vague noises of agreement at baby classes, etc. I avoided talking about it but just kind of smiled and nodded along!

MyOtherProfile · 28/01/2020 13:15

That's lovely!

mustn't mention that the shit will hit the fan soon and this is just the honeymoon phase Grin

UAintMyMuvva · 28/01/2020 13:17

Enjoy your lovely baby, OP.

My first child was a very spirited baby, hardly slept, fussed a lot and then was a little terror as a toddler. He ran me ragged.

My DD was like yours. She honestly never cried unless she was hungry, and then would stop instantly on being fed and be settled and peaceful again. She slept through the night from very early on. I could put her down and she’d just gurgle and smile or fall asleep again. I could take her out wherever I went and she wouldn’t fuss. Would happily lie in her pram or later sit in her high chair and smile and get interested in whatever was around her. She was such an easy baby.

People told me it would get harder, but it never did in the baby/toddler/childhood stage. She was always chilled out, sunny and lovely. She has just hit her teens, though, so I’m probably about to get some big style payback Grin.

YicketyYackMamasBack · 28/01/2020 13:19

Exactly!
I even fibbed to a parent at a baby group today. She asked me how I was doing and I almost automatically adopted the “ha-ha tired but that’s to be expected with the sleepless nights” and she just agrees with me but I thought afterwards why did I even fib that she doesn’t sleep 🙈 I suppose society has deemed never sleeping again normal so I didn’t want to rock the boat with my dream of a DD.

I’m more than aware that I could totally jinx it and tonight could be a misery. It could change at any time. Not looking forward to the teething stages, and apparently 6 weeks old is when they have a crying peak so we’re not out of the woods yet!

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Refreshed · 28/01/2020 13:23

My baby slept through from birth OP, and breastfed like a dream. Still sleeps and feeds perfectly, he's 2 now. I never got a regression stage so ignore any negative comments!

UAintMyMuvva · 28/01/2020 13:24

You never know, OP.

My DD dropped night feeds altogether at 6 weeks and was sleeping 10-12 hours unbroken. I took her to the HV and GP as I was worried about her, and would check she was breathing in the night. I just couldn’t believe she was such a great sleeper.

There was absolutely nothing wrong with her. She just loved her sleep. And she still napped in the daytime and was always in a good mood when she woke up. She was a little freak of nature Grin.

I told anyone who would listen. My first DC was such a nightmare sleeper well in to his third year that I felt it was only fair that I got a good sleeper second time around Grin. I probably would have hated me when I was a first time mum surviving on a couple of hours sleep, though....

ToTravelIsToLive · 28/01/2020 13:36

I was dreading the lack of sleep bit 4 months in we have had only a handful of bad nights and it's either been when he had his jabs or a growth spurt and I struggled to get back to sleep. I tend to tell people he sleeps worse than he does as it's usually another mum who is very sleep deprived asking. Enjoy your little one and if things do change just remember everything is a phase and it will pass

DoveGreylove · 28/01/2020 13:58

This makes me so jealous! As my baby was an awful newborn, cried all the time, wouldn't just go to sleep, I had to rock her over and over, i couldn't do anything ... absolutely NOTHING. Some days I couldn't shower or brush my teeth let alone eat as she was so high maintenance. She still is really. And she's now 6 months old. I won't ever consider having a second child now.

You're so so lucky, enjoy this time. It must be lovely being in a newborn bubble. I pray for you it doesn't change. xx

(Oh, yeah I probably wouldn't boast tooooo much in person to any mums as if someone said this to me when my baby was 4 weeks old I would have gone home and cried and wonder what I was doing wrong, question if I was a shit mother and why I didn't have such a settled baby)

QueenofmyPrinces · 28/01/2020 14:04

Oh, yeah I probably wouldn't boast tooooo much in person to any mums as if someone said this to me when my baby was 4 weeks old I would have gone home and cried and wonder what I was doing wrong, question if I was a shit mother and why I didn't have such a settled baby)

Too true. Stealth boasting can cause a lot of upset to mothers who are going through a really hard time with their babies.

You don’t have to lie to other mums about the easy journey you are having with your baby but stealth boasting isn’t the way to go about it.

Congratulations Flowers

HeyMac · 28/01/2020 14:16

I hope it continues for you.

Mines was exactly like this. Perfect. Until 4 months hit and all hell broke loose Grin for the next 3.5 years Blush

Always been a lovely kid though so hopefully yours is too.

inwood · 28/01/2020 15:16

Lovely.

However ime lovely babies turn into horrendous toddlers so enjoy it while it lasts!

Thismummyruns · 28/01/2020 17:37

My 2nd was a dream too... until 4 months old and it all went to shit 😂

Refreshed · 28/01/2020 17:42

My lovely, sleepy baby didn't turn into a hisoue toddler, nor did he go through a 'regression' at 4 months. Ignore them OP

RitaHayworthHair · 28/01/2020 17:51

Oh how lovely.

Miss having a baby Grin

Puddlelane123 · 28/01/2020 17:59

Enjoy every lovely moment - although I will admit that if I had read this in the haze of the newborn days I would have cried copiously. This is so wildly different from my experience of those early weeks (or indeed the months and years afterwards!) that even now it stings a bit to wonder how different my introduction to motherhood might have been with a baby like you describe. I make no attempts to hide my jealousy and slight inferiority complex that I didn’t experience the same!

PixieDustt · 28/01/2020 18:01

She sounds lovely.
My DS is 6.5 months old and I've never had a sleepless night with him caused by him (yet 🤣).
He's a dream. He's got more needy over the last few months and is a really a Mumma's boy but I love it ☺️

Thinkingabout1t · 28/01/2020 18:04

Enjoy every moment, OP, and long may they last!

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