Should I / how should I Monitor 15yo Sons snapchat ? Spying or

[Agnes1945]

Wondering if I should monitor 15yo son snapchat. Also how to do this , have heard of some apps and programs to effectively spy on his snapchat
Cannot take his phone or forbid Snapchat as he has had it for ages and is generally sensible and fine. However recently he has had some worrying messages from his on off gf.
She self harms and has talked about suicide. This is being addressed by her parents. School etc.
But I would just like to check re content of messages as she has worried and stressed him before with messages prior to exams etc. Sorry for long post. Any advice welcomed. And any app suggestions. I have iPhone but not very tech minded xxxxx

Personally I don’t think you should do this. If you think your son is old enough and mature enough to have Snapchat then you need to leave it.

We had something similar at the same age with messages keeping DD up all night worrying about friends hurting themselves etc. We dealt with it by removing her phone at 9pm and returning it in the morning for school. Her friends never actually did anything and she passed her GCSE’s and a long while later actually thanked us for removing the pressure she felt to always be available.

You can’t stop other kids doing what they will do you can only look after yours.

Thank you. Yes that is true. Phone is being removed from him before bedtime now so he is getting to sleep now. I am glad to hear all worked ok for your dd. That is what I hope will happen here. Xxxx