What age.....

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Morning all!
I’ve been googling and it’s made me feel a bit rubbish, suprise suprise!
May I ask what age your little ones were using a spoon, fork, cup by themselves please? Also what age washing hands by themselves?
My little one has just turned two and he can’t wash hands by himself.
I’m too in the habit of feeding him so he can’t load up his own spoon but can easily feed himself with one if I load it. To be honest he prefers to use his hands to feed himself.
The cup, that’s my fault as he uses a 360 cup. Occasionally he uses a doidy cup but spills some on himself.
I’m feeling rubbish as what I’ve seen on google he ‘should’ be able to wash hands by himself, use spoon and fork independently including loading them up by himself and should be able to use a cup with no spillage. I’ve taken on board that I will encourage him to do these things rather me doing it all but I’d like to get real person experience with this.
Thanks all

My DD would only spoon feed herself at 12 months. Now she is 3.5 years I often end up feeding her!

I’ve been so focused on his lack of speech and trying to help him with it (waiting for salt) that I’ve overlooked washing hands, spoon and cup use. I feel really bad! Time to get my arse in gear now!

Spoon feeding themselves at 9+ months. Both could use a knife and fork properly at age 2 1/2 - 3. For ours it was a case of “monkey see, monkey do”

He’s been able to use a pre loaded spoon by himself for ages, I’ll encourage him to load it himself. Regarding a fork, he’s stabbed it into a slice of banana/fish finger by himself a few times but gets fed up and uses his hands instead.

He’s just done so well with his doidy cup. Only spilt some at the end as he was excited because I was clapping and cheering! I don’t feel quite as bad on myself now with the cup, I’ll keep offering it to him with meals

Open cup - 10 months
Spoon - 12 months
Fork - hit & miss, I probably don't give him one enough to practice
Washing hands - just before 2

He wouldn't drink out of a sippy cup at all so he had to become fairly self sufficient at drinking early on - he never once held his own baby bottle though, he much preferred us to do it!

Spoon for something easy like yoghurt - about 12 months
Fork - about 2 (preferred her hands up until then for pretty much everything except yogurt and wouldn’t take a pre-loaded spoon)
Open cup - 18 months
Washing hands - about 2 but still doesn’t do a great job so needs help

I have to say though, daycare have taught her most of it!

I’m a sahm and I have obviously slipped behind with the above. Like I said, I’ve been so worried about his lack of speech that I’ve been too busy focusing on that.
Tried him with a fork at lunch but he just waved it around. I’ll keep offering the cutlery and try to help him.
I’ve bought a step for him this morning to help reach up to the sink for hand washing. I find him heavy balancing on my knee and normally give him a bowl of soapy water to paddle his hands in or wipe them with a flannel.

I think you just need to give him a fork and a spoon and let him do what he wants. If he wants to use his hands, fine, but don’t help. Mine was certainly using a fork, spoon and open cup from around the time he turned 1, but I didn’t really offer other options. Washing hands maybe from around 20 months, but he learned that at nursery (where the sink is the right size). He’ll get it eventually.

Thank you all for your help. I’m annoyed at myself but going forwards I’ll be giving him cutlery, washing hands properly at the sink and giving him an open cup more.