Nightshift contact with baby?

[Annie600xx]

Hi all I'm a single mother to a wonderful 10 month old little boy. His father hasn't had continuous contact through his life ( his choice ) and has been in and out so doesn't have unsupervised contact yet. As he is now wanting to be back in his life he has proposed coming to see him every SECOND Sunday for 1 hour and he can't come any other time as he is nightshift all week. I think he should be coming during the week at some point especially as this will mean my son doesn't see him for 2 weeks at a time so basically what I'm asking is what would you say would be appropriate contact for a dad who works nightshift. He drives and lives 20 mins away. He starts nightshift at 10:30pm and finishes at 7:30am I the morning weekdays? In my opinion fathers and mothers everywhere work nightshift but that doesn't mean they don't see their children at all and don't have any responsibilities. Thanks in advance for any replies.

He wants to see him one hour per fortnight? What a hero!

Look, the way I see it, there’s no point trying to force him to spend time with his son when he has no desire to. Any increase in visits needs to be instigated by him, not you.

I expect he’ll get bored before long and disappear.

There's no reason why he can't have proper contact say fri night-Sunday afternoon for example

Why not come after his shift ends. He wont be going to sleep asap presumably

@@Looneytune253 well there is, because DS hardly knows him

Unfortunately, you can't force him to want to see his child, that has to come from him. Is the Sunday afternoon visit convenient to you and your DS?

From a practical point of view, is he on the Birth Certificate?

@JiltedJohnsJulie I just say yes to him for my son. And no he isn't on the birth certificate I didn't hear from him until DS was 2 months.

That's ok then. If you wNt your son to see him but don't want your ex in your home, you could always arrange to meet in the park

Thank everyone