Confused about demand feeding now 12 week old DS is demanding less

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My DS's feeding pattern has changed in the past couple of weeks and I'm confused about keeping up with him! We struggled with slow weight gain for the first 6 weeks or so and he had a tongue tie so I got used to feeding him every 1.5/ 2 hours ish (he's EBF now, was having some top ups until 6 weeks). He then stretched feeds to 2.5/3 hours and now he's not particularly hungry after 3 hours - i.e. he's not actually demanding a feed. I'm just uncomfortable with feeding him only every 4 hours as I'm still nervous about weight gain (even though he is gaining fine now, he's still only 9th centile, so definitely small for his age)! But do I just feed him roughly every 3 hours even if he's not actually asking for food, or should I just be led by him and let him stretch out his feeds? He feeds once or twice in the night too (about every 4/5 hours) - if I let him feed less in the day could that mean he's hungrier at night?

Thanks!

My DD went through a phase where we fed her more than she demanded. If he were mine, and I'm no expert, I'd be tempted to offer every 3 hours in the day

If you go 4 hours does he drink a bigger bottle? Look at oz over the 24hours instead of how long between feeds.

My DS wasn't ebf by 12 weeks but he quickly went into a 4 hour feeding schedule as opposed to the 3 hours more babies seem to do. He did have a large amount every 4 hours though. All babies are different.

Urghh I just realised I totally misread and didn’t realise he is by, ignore me!

There is also a really useful Infant Feeding topic on MN OP