Try to get DH to help with kids during the night, but he just doesn't know how to settle them- he seems to make them wired. In the early hours of this morning, DC2 woke crying, I asked him to carry her to our bed and I would BF her back to sleep in bed with me and he could sleep in the spare room. 30 minutes later, DC2 was getting niggly and pinching and crying each time my boob fell out of her mouth. I carried her back to DH and asked if he could rock her to sleep. She was moaning a little after 5 minutes but sleepily, then I heard him put her down in the her cot whilst she is whimpering and she began screaming, where he continues to leave her! She eventually became inconsolable, crying for mummy. I have now been rocking her for around 1.5 hours and sent DH back to the spare room.
Luckily, on this occasion DC1 wasn't woken by DC2s crying.
He just can't seem to keep everyone calm at night. He will begin a conversation with DC1 when she wakes as opposed to quietly putting her back to bed/in bed with us. This engages her brain and she then won't go back to sleep. He also can't whisper!
He doesn't seem to get it.
I said "what are you doing?"
When he left DC2 in her cot crying and he said "oh here we go again, I'm not doing things your way..."
He doesn't realise its not about doing it my way but acknowledging the needs of the DCs.
Feel like asking for any help is a waste of time.
He'll often just sit in the chair in DCs room if she's crying for me doing nothing other than holding her and seemingly waiting for me to take over. He could try standing up stroking her head,.singing but he's so half-hearted. If it's "his turn" to go to them, he takes so long that by the time he gets there, they're wide awake.
Feel like what's the point. I may aswell do everything myself.