PLEASE HELP ......... POTTY TRAINING DISASTER

[mosschops30]

Sorry I had to shout but these threads get ignored and I dont know what to do!

Started with ds this morning, he will sit on potty but only after he's wee'd on the floor. We havent once made it to the toilet or potty today.
I am asking every 5 minutes and he just says 'no thanks'

GF says I should have a few ticks in my column so far, but none

I have had 4 children and my youngest son has by far been the worst. He was 4 on sunday. Make a star chart with your son and tell him every time he has a wee on the potty he will get a star let him stick the stars on. He will soon get the hang of it. How old is he?

I wouldn't worry about Gina's ticks, they'll just drive you crazy.

tbh I wouldn't ask if he want's to sit, I would just sit him, every 15 mins or so. Have books, puzzles, colouring, telly etc available so he is more likely to want to sit.

Have super reward ready (with bountiful praise etc) for when he does first wee in potty.

dd loved her star chart. I stuck a smartie on every 3rd space, so it was:
wee = sticker
wee = sticker
wee = smartie
etc

She loved working up to the smarties.

You're only on day 1 so don't be too hard on yourself. I would prepare yoursely mentally for far more wee 'in' that 'out' for at least the first 3 days

hth

Thanks I was feeling a bit of a failure. The star chart thing is good I will make one.

He is 2.7

i am so stressed

A Smartie for every wee on potty/toilet

He may not be ready. The general consensus is to try it for a week (max) and if there's no improvement, leave it for a month and try again.

He should be ready though at this age no??

We have made a star chart (does it have to be posh)? Its a very poor effort but he has scribbled on it and I have put a sticker on for him sitting on the potty. he will get a big sticker and a sweetie if he wees on the potty.

he just wee'd all over the kitchen floor, I feel like I am wadin uphill through treacle

Well, broadly speaking, yes

Mine was dry at 2.6 months, but try as I might (and it's fecking head-banging), I can't get him to do a poo unless it's in a nappy.

I've now decided, for the sake of both our stress levels, to leave the poo problem for a while, because he was just holding it in.

Do you have a toilet trainer seat? My ds never liked the potty.

2.7 is still quite young, isn't it? Not too young to start, by any means, but totally normal to not 'get it', either?

First of all. Thorw that book away. NOW

Secondly, its only the forst day. DS1 wee'd every wee on the floor on Day 1. Try not to gove him too much attention for it and just clean it up and swap his pants/trousers over.

Tomorrow wil be better. may be worth getting a small treat in for the first time he makes it to the toilet/potty...sticker book for eg and then wach time he successfully wee's you can give hima sticker to oput in it

Yes I have a toilet training seat and a little step for him to get up.

I'm finding it so frustrating. I cant wait for nighttime so I can put him back in a nappy

My childminder has been pushing for months for him to get dry, so i feel under some pressure plus my friends little ones are all dry in the day.

He wont even sit on potty now for sticker.

I am useless, wish I had a nanny to do all this hard stuff because I have no patience

Firstly, ditch the book . From what I read of it you shouldn't be on here, on the phone, or doing anything else other than concentrating on keeping DS on the potty for 10mins out of every 15 !!

Secondly, I agree with a star chart. Buy some stickers, do a basic chart of columns for the days and let him choose a big sticker for each wee/poo on the potty and a little sticker for every "attempt" (ie. each time he sits on the potty even if no action)

oh, X'd posts. I see he now won't sit on the potty.

YOU ARE NOT USELESS ! Potty training would try the patience of a saint.

i would leave it for a week it will just make you both sad

Leave it for a month. Then at intervals offer the choice of pants and potty, or nappy. Having seen what my friends went through with potty training I decided to wait until they wanted to do it! Both DS and DD were over 3 when they chose pants but each of them only had one accident - and when they went to playschool I noticed when I helped that they needed the toilet very much less than earlier trained children. Good luck!

EAsiest is to let them run around with no pants on. Leave two potties in obvious places. Do the sticker thing and make a big fuss every time. We have a big sticker for a poo in the toilet and at the end of each week with 5 stickers in a row (ie no accidents) he gets a dinky car which is up on display on the fridge for him to see and we remind him every day that its there for friday if he does the poo. Just don't get stressed or shout and get them to help you clean up puddles, they soon get tired of it and will try the potty. HTH

Defo try the sweetie or choclate button thing every wee to begin with. Otherwise give it a few weeks, do it at their pace or it will be a battle.

I think I will give it til the end of the day, if we dont manage one wee in the potty by then I will have to give it a bit longer.

Thanks for all your advice, he's just shown his sister the star chart so it must be having some effect