Hi I’m knew to mums net . I don’t know if I’m posting in the right place. I have no one to talk to. We had a call from the police to say my 13yr old son had been telling his friends he wants to commit suicide. They wanted us to check up on him. He was fine in his room. When I asked him what was wrong he said he’s really had enough because his younger sister is really annoying and that his dad hits him. I checked his phone (feel guilty but I needed to know how serious he was ) he told his friends his dad hits him and that he wanted to end it all. That his dad likes his older brother better because he doesn’t have habits(my son has Tourette’s, not the worse case but it causes him frustration and anxiety. He also has ocd) I have never seen my husband hit my child but I know that he’s too rough and loses his temper easily. He drinks a lot in the evenings and although he doesn’t become aggressive because of this at the time, he has a short fuse in the mornings. I work full time and so my husband is responsible for taking my daughter to school. She’s often upto an hour or more late because he can’t get himself out of bed. After the call from the police I spoke to my manager about son feeling suicidal and have been given 9-4 school time hours to be around to keep an eye on him. My daughter told me that my husband would make my son sit in the back of the car so he couldn’t see him doing his tics and that if they were annoying him he would slam the brakes on so that he would stop ticking. I had 5 weeks off last March as things had gotten bad at home too and whilst I was at home things improved. I have told my husband before to change his behaviour. I don’t want my kids feeling bad or being taken into care because of him. Do I leave? I think I know the answer but when I spoke to my mum she asked how would I afford to rent on my own? My son seems so happy to the outside world but is becoming increasingly angry and frustrated himself. The school also had a call from a concerned parent whose child told them about sons messages. I have set up a counselling session for him and he’s having a medication review and seeing his consultant. I’ve done all this to be proactive ,and also because I’m worried my parenting is going to come into question for not doing anything to stop it, but I also know that the reason he feels so bad is because of his dad. When I asked my older son he said my younger one was exaggerating, however my eldest went through the same and I had the same worries when he was younger. My gut says leave the kids need me to make this decision. But I’m worried I’m being dramatic and maybe we can change things. I have asked him to go to counselling before and it didn’t happen. I just don’t know where We would go. I need to know we have somewhere safe to go to If I leave. Thanks if you’ve read this far . Bluegal