This parenting is hard - DDs have been really naughty today and I'm feeling so angry I could cry

[sparkler]

Just been one thing after another today. They have really played me up. Too much to go into here.
We've been out with friends and just got in. I marched them straight upstairs bathed them - quick dunk and washed their hair then they were straight out into their PJ's. They are now both sitting on their beds in their rooms thinking about what they have done today and what they could do better.

They've made me feel really low now.

This has happened to me so many times I've lost count. It's normal, it's hard. You'll get through it - and so will I!

I've yelled so much my throat hurts.

Cup of tea and chocolate biscuit?

Its a nightmare isn't it? My two have been good today and even done a good job of tidying a bookcase - but there are days I could cheerfully ring there necks! When they do it in public it is even worse.

Courage mon ami!Courage..

DD2 (5) had a huge tantrum in the car on the way home and kicked the chair numerous times. She's snapped the handle on the seat - have to explain that one to DH when he gets home later.
They've been hitting each other and pushing their friends. It's been a nightmare.

3 hours til bedtime. Tomorrow is another day.

You know tomorrow could be absolutely fine and they will do things that give you that warm cosy feeling. It's just today was particularly hard. I've shouted at mine so hard that my throat hurts - we've all been there. Crying helps!

I'm just thinking the same thing I am guessing mine are younger than yours (3 and 19 months) they won't stop fighting, DD2 wants everything DD1 has, DD2 is really violent she hits and bites well bites mostly me but smacks her sister who is pushing her. DD2 is too young for any real discipline she just laughs when you tell her no or put her in the corner on her own or she comes back out and smacks you across the face.

To make matters worse I have a stinking cold and DP isn't in until gone 8 tonight when they shall be tucked up in bed.

I'm just cooking their tea then they are going to bed - don't care how early it is

mine are still at i'm going to disappear into the kitchen for a cup of tea and leave them to it

I'm feeling really disappointed with them right now.
They've just come down to apologise to me and I can't even bear to me near them - they've been that bad.

My dd was a real nightmare a few days ago, and I would just sit and sob while she was in her room "thinking about it".... she's only little (2.5 yrs) but knows exactly which buttons to push etc. I then did a bit of research and gave her a load of bach flower remedies (haha!), and madly enough, she has been a changed chind since then. Obviously still totally capable of being a monkey etc, but less vicious and trying to be really naughty. It certainly can't do any harm. Wil try to find a link. Also, if in doubt, try a little (or a lot!) of rescue remedy yourself....!

Poor you Sparkler, your words echo EXACTLY how I felt last week.... I didn't care how early it was either (for bedtime that it...)...

I've used the rescue remedy twice!!!

Make that THREE TIMES!!!

Can't find the link yet.... rescue remedy works well on the children too... especially if over excited, aggressive, angry etc. I have been glugging it madly myself!

here it is.... scroll down to the bottom of this long page for the bit that is relevant to children......

Your dds are upstairs, you're downstairs cooling off. In a while, go and speak to them, tell them why you're sad, they'll prob apologise, you'll all feel better.

Thanks for listening to me guys and for your helpful advice. DDs are now asleep and I'm feeling a little calmer. I have even managed to stay off the alcohol .
Here's to another day tomorrow.

Oh sparkler, I feel your pain. I also have sore throat today And I know exactly what you mean about even finding it hard to accept apologies when you just wnat them to be (temporarily?) a 100 miles away.