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How to get baby to sleep in cot during day???

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VickyHa · 29/08/2007 13:46

I have a nearly 4 wk old (dd) who sleeps fine in cot at night (when asleep!) but hates it and crys hysterically during the day. My ds (now nearly 3) was fine with this and I am unsure how to reasure her without contantly rocking her to sleep. Any advice welcome...

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majorstress · 29/08/2007 13:53

(lots of people are now going to urge you to abandon the cot, but perhaps you'd rather keep to it.)

Can you black out the room? Give the same toys and arrngements as nighttime?

my dd2 has always had more trouble falling asleep and very early developed attachments to things (tags) to nuzzle and chew, plus really liked a little gentle radio thingy with lights to gaze at, used it up to 2 night and day when going off. She still needs the same toys at bedtime and chews the tags (mostly now in rags). She's 4.5. DD1 never did any of this.

Maybe you are missing the signs she's tired and need to make it a bit earlier, or later.

Loopymumsy · 29/08/2007 18:45

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VickyHa · 30/08/2007 09:09

Thanks for all the responses - nice to feel like I have some support !

I do all the same things during the day as at night - also I do have some blackout blinds - so not completely dark but as good as I can get it.

She always goes down awake at night (just) but during the day is often more sleepy - maybe I need to put her down when she is more awake so it is not such a shock if she stirs?

No toys or anything in the cot yet - just a mobile which seems to make her more angry if I put the music on....

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fizzbuzz · 30/08/2007 09:20

Oooooh, I had this.

Read "The Baby Whisperer", it was a real turning point for us!!

The 4 s's

Soothe (cuddle etc)
Swaddle
Sssh (pat them at heartbeat rate say shhhh0
Stay (20mins)

Sorted my little madam out

Jojay · 30/08/2007 09:21

The shush pat technique from the Baby Whisperer - check out he website - is great for settling young babies in their cots.

Jojay · 30/08/2007 09:21

Fizzbuzz - snap!!!

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VickyHa · 30/08/2007 09:37

Fantastic - I am going to the website now and Waterstones this afternoon! I will give it a go when she is next ready for a sleep and will let you all know....

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Jojay · 30/08/2007 09:50

It's 'The Baby Whisperer Solves All Your Problems' - that's the one you want.

Best of Luck!

fizzbuzz · 30/08/2007 09:52

TBW also talks about reading your baby's sleepy cues.

gegs73 · 30/08/2007 09:53

DS2 was like this until about 3 weeks ago (he is now 13 weeks). He used to scream when he went in his moses basket in the day but went down fine at night and when he woke in the night for feeding too. Very odd but at least it wasn't the other way round.

In the end I gave up and let him sleep in his bouncy chair or his pushchair in the day which he liked. Then put him down in his moses basket at night which he was fine with. I started putting him back in there in the day around 3 weeks ago but only when he looked really tired. He did cry a little but I used what I think was baby whisperer technique of sushing him and he was fine. He still has a little moan before he goes to sleep in the day but nothing dramatic.

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VickyHa · 30/08/2007 12:40

Tried shsing and patting - and we are currently 1hr and 15 mins in on a good sleep. Actually managed to have some lunch today - result!

Thanks all - looks like this is the way forward....

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fizzbuzz · 30/08/2007 13:40

Another fantastic tip was, if they wake up after about 40 mins (related to sleep cycles)
wait outside door just before so you can go in and settle them straight away.

What I want to know, is why aren't babies like this mentioned in ante-natal classes. My first lo slept easliy and everywhere.
2nd one slept at night but not in day, and it took me 3 months to find answer. Why didn't HV suggest this?

Jojay · 30/08/2007 19:18

Glad it's going well Vicky.

Be prepared for it not to work every time though - some regression is normal, quite often once it has worked perfectly well for a week or so.

If that happens, just continue as you were, be completely consistent and you'll get back on track in no time

miniegg · 30/08/2007 19:52

Vicky, I think this must be quite a common problem as my DS is just the same...he's four weeks old too and won't sleep in the moses basket during the day, but accepts it at night.
i gave up trying and he now sleeps in a baby rocker or car seat (! have checked with the gp etc and this is fine..) during the day, which works for us. i'd rather he was in the moses basket but it's been a losing battle and i simply didn't have the energy to persevere. my plan is to leave it a few more weeks before taking up the fight again!and as other posters have said, at least it's not the other way round! would seem totally wrong putting him in car seats/rockers during the night!!!

MegBusset · 30/08/2007 20:05

My DS was just the same, would only nap on me or in the buggy in the early weeks. I would say just ride it out for now if you can (I got rid of some baby weight pushing him round the block 4/5 times a day!) and when she is a bit older I'm sure she will be OK with the cot -- mine made the transition pretty painlessly at about 4 months.

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