Is this normal? Or am I a bad Mum?

[BlueMoon1103]

Basically my DS was up every 45 mins last night, not the first time he’s done this. This morning I’m shattered (which I expect) but the thing that’s bothering me is I don’t even want to be around DS. I don’t want to play with him, feed him etc. and I feel really angry with him. I know he’s a baby and bad nights aren’t unusual and this isn’t the first time he’s done it but for some reason I just feel so angry about it! I don’t like feeling like this. Is this normal after no sleep or am I just a freak? I don’t have anyone to babysit for me today, before anyone suggests it.

I always resent my daughter when we have had a bad night. I know it’s not her fault but I’m SO TIRED and irritable. I try really hard not to be grumpy with her.

Can you get out to see a friend? I’d normally suggest a baby group but as it’s Sunday I guess there won’t be one. I can’t bear sitting round the house all day especially when I’m grumpy so trying to see someone (with baby in tow obvs) would be a priority for me. I assume baby’s dad isn’t around or is at work or something?

I vividly remember one time I was so fed up with DS that I had to have him on a pillow on my lap while I fed him, because I couldn't bear to touch him You're not a bad mum, just a human who's exhausted.

Possible he might have an ear infection btw, they don't always tug on their ears etc.

I've been in some terrible moods after being up a night with DS - literally doing the bare minimum of parenting.

Try to get a nap if you can and a nice cup of tea/coffee. I find a bit of fresh air always helps me too. I'd often get my fresh air on the way to the nice cup of coffee!

Thanks everyone, you made me feel a bit better! We did go out with friends which has cheered me up and no @modgepodge DS’s Dad isn’t involved with him at all so just me and the boy

How old is your ds? It may be a sleep regression

@Harrysmummy246 10 months.

Ah classic sleep regression age then. Although for us, to be honest, seemed like whole of about the first 18 months was crap

I'd say that was perfectly normal to be honest. DD has been awake the last three nights as shes ill. She can't help it but god I feel fed up with her in a morning!

Oh god i dont miss that time.
My sympathies OP and yes I felt exactly like you. One really bad night I napped on her floor all night, was easier than the up and down crap from bed.
I don't deal well with no sleep at all to this day and dd is 9. She knows to wait for me to have a coffee first thing lunless it an emergency. Some days what is deemed an emergency make me go hmmmm though

They're programmed to have sleep regressions every time you feel like you stand a chance of actually getting on top of things.

squeekums one day in December DS woke us at 5am to tell us he'd accidentally opened the wrong door on his advent calendar.

Oh totally normally. I have enough of my child during the day sometimes 🙈 some days she’s just the whingiest child on the planet, nothing I say or do pleases her. By midday, I’ve frankly had enough! Typical toddler though.. by bedtime she’ll be super loveable & I feel bad about my indifference and thoughts about how I could afford to increase her days in nursery 😂

It is normal to feel a bit annoyed at the lack of sleep but I hope you did actually feed him?

I agree it’s normal to feel grumpy and annoyed after no sleep (been there myself with one of my twins who woke every 1-2 hours for the first nine months! But I don’t think it’s ‘normal’ to be that angry you don’t want to feed or interact with your baby.

Broken nights are part of being a parent. It’s not your babies fault!

Sleep deprivation is a form of torture! You are not a bad mum. You are just getting through each day as best you can, like we all are. When you are sleep deprived you are more likely to feel irritable and emotional.

If my DD wakes me in the night which she still does at the age of 5 (sorry, I know it probably doesn't help to hear that) the next day I have to explain that Mummy isn't feeling as energetic as usual because I haven't had as much sleep. That I still love her and I know she can't always help waking up but that she needs to understand that if she does wake me up in the night I'm far less likely to want to do fun things like bake a cake, take her to the park or play Sylvanian families with her the next day.

Obviously if she wakes up because she is ill, thats different.

Normal from my own personal experience. I mean you're still feeding him, just with a bit of resentment! It will pass. Tiredness is horrible.

There's a reason sleep deprivation is used as torture.

Put it behind you and move on, I hope you have a better night tonight.

@JesusInTheCabbageVan that is exactly a dd type of emergency lol

or the tiny key from the shopkins car is missing..........