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6yo DD's 'boyfriend' has asked her to 'rub bottoms'

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JustaScratch · 10/01/2020 13:33

So, help me work out how to handle this, mumsnet!

6yo DD is a very confident and happy girl with lots of friends, and tbh is a bit of an exhibitionist (I've had to talk to her in the past about not taking her clothes off at parties). We have a pretty open and honest style of parenting with her.

She has recently become close with a boy in her class and told me last week that they are boyfriend and girlfriend and that he kisses her on the lips.

Anyway, yesterday, she told us that he had told her about what boyfriends and girlfriends do - she explained it as saying they 'rub their bottoms together' and that he wants to do it. It all seems pretty innocent and she thinks it's hilarious but we don't want her to think this is a good idea and I want to handle it right. I've said we would talk about it at the weekend.

For background - we've talked since she was little about where babies come from, but haven't got to explaining the mechanics of it yet. My natural instinct is to be honest, but at 6yo I feel like she's a bit young to have all the graphic detail, and I also don't want to give her any ideas! We also don't want her finding herself in an uncomfortable or inappropriate situation and not know what to do.

What would you do?

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LucyLeak · 12/01/2020 20:38

Hopefully that link will work. If not Google "pants are private". I found this very helpful when discussing this with my DC.

JustaScratch · 13/01/2020 06:53

Thank you. We watched that over the weekend and are off to see the head of primary this morning.

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JustaScratch · 13/01/2020 08:38

Spoke to the teacher. She was clearly relieved it wasn't worse but also took it seriously at the same time. She's going to speak to the school psychologist who will then get in touch with us to explain the plan of action and in the meantime teachers will be made aware to monitor them more closely. Thanks everyone who replied for helping me get clear sighted on this!

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