Going back to work- SIT day

[dreamsmama]

I know this has been talked about loads but I am going back to work tomorrow just for a day to do a staying in touch day and I am actually dreading it!!! I feel guilty because my baby is only 3 months old, but I feel like I need to go back otherwise when I'm due back I won't want to go!! He is staying at home with my partner (his daddy) so it's not like I'm leaving him in a new setting. I feel like I'm being pathetic but would love a bit of reassurance from somebody that found it difficult going back as I have no one around me with babies and it can be isolating sometimes! x

Hi OP

Don't worry it's completely normal to feel like this! I've got a 9 month old DD and go back to FT work in 7 weeks. I've done several keeping in touch days, the first one is the worst.

I dropped DD off at my mums and as soon as I was in the office I was fine. I'm sure you'll be the same. If you don't want to do KIT days they are only optional not mandatory & you aren't expected to work the entire day (just incase you aren't aware) depends on you and your organisation though. My mum sent me some pictures of her playing whilst I was working too, could be worth asking your DP to do the same - of course they are in safe hands but it always help seeing their little faces again!

Try not to worry - you'll be fine

Thankyou so much @VioletVerity.
It's so nice to hear that from another mum that it's not just me being over the top.
Like you say I hope I get to work and feel better! Is it your first child? and are you nervous about going back or do you feel okay about it x

Yes - It's my first too, you literally just worry about everything don't you? I remember leaving her with my mum while we went out for a meal and a few drinks on my birthday and I felt sick till I was home!

I'm looking forward to having a work routine back in my life but I know I will miss being with her everyday. How about you? How long did you take off? X

Every single little thing! We also went out for an evening and I felt exactly the same, I'm aware we need to do it to stay sane etc but it doesn't make it easier haha!

I'm taking the whole 39 weeks paid off however, I went on maternity early as I didn't have a good pregnancy so I am due back beginning of May! Luckily I'm going back part- time as childcare is an issue.
I think once back in a routine of work I think it's healthy I'm sure you will do great and cherish coming home from work even more 😃 how are you dealing with childcare are you putting your daughter in nursery or is family and friends helping? x

I went back to work when my dd was 3 months old. Once you’re back in there you’ll soon get into it. You’ll probably even enjoy it. I did. For me it was the first time I’d felt normal since becoming a mum.

Thanks @Yoohoo16 it's nice to know that it's not all doom and gloom. I was looking forward to it until it's come to the evening beforehand haha! But I'm going to try and be a bit more positive and look at it as a break x

@dreamsmama yes it definitely keeps you sane! Haha

I had a bad pregnancy too, I went early (34 weeks). I was sick from very early on until I had her and was induced at 38 weeks due to pre eclampsia as well. Pregnancy was not fun. I had a few friends who fell pregnant around the same time as me and they were absolutely glowing. I on the other hand looked like zombie from the moment I found out I wasn't even pale - I was like this grey colour throughout!

We are lucky that my mum can have her and I'm hoping to condense my hours into 4 days. That's a shame with childcare, Is your LO going to nursery when you are back at work? I can't believe how expensive they are! The closest one to me is £50 per day. Have you decided what days you'll be working? X

Oh bless you, that sounds awful. Hope everything is ok now though? I agree with you there pregnancy is not fun, I didn't enjoy it at all but obviously the outcome is great!
I was sick also, it was a nightmare!
That's great that your mum can help out! That will be even better if you can condense it which means more time 🤗
I'm going back on a Wednesday and a Saturday, luckily my partner is condensing his work hours into four days so he can have baby on a Wednesday and has weekends off anyway! Shame we lose a family day at the weekend though. Will you have weekends off?
Nursery is ridiculous isn't it i looked into it and it's around £62 for a day, which basically means I'd be working for nothing! So nursery isn't an option for us! X