Health visitor advice.

[MamaButton98]

Hi all! Monday was the second visit and she seemed a tad off this time. As in she wasn’t giving me the whole story.
First off, she raised her voice when I said my month olds night routine went out of the window with him wanting more feeds. She backed off quickly after I gave her the “Unimpressed Mum Look”. Advise me don’t shout at me.
Secondly she weighed him but she sounded unsure when I asked if his weight was okay. She claimed it was a good weight but she booked an appointment for next week and her tone didn’t sound right to me. Do they normally book extra visits like this? Is there anything I should be concerned about.
Also what can they misinterpret as a red flag? I’m keeping a good filter on what I say after a HV called SS on my mum after she claimed she wanted to go out as in shopping for food but HV took it as drinking.
I’m not a people person really, I see a HV job as weigh baby, note it down then leave so everything else to me is a waste of time for us both. Anyway I digress!
What are you extra visits for and has anyone else had a HV step out of place?

You told her that baby’s routine has gone out the window and you sound like you could have been on edge with her around. She is probably worried about you and wanting offer extra support. The HV service is voluntary and you don’t need to have home visits if you don’t want them.

By more support I mean her popping in for a chat nothing else. You really don’t need to be guarded in what you say to your HV.

Is this your first baby? I saw the HV probably weekly with my first, less so with the 2nd, but the home visits usually end by 6 weeks and I certainly saw her at least 3-4 times in that period. She shouldn’t be getting grumpy or shout at you though.

It’s easy to see if your baby is gaining well. Just look at the chart in your book. Your baby should be roughly staying around the centile line from birth or going up or down slightly. There is only a concern if there is a significant drop in centiles.

Ah it’s good to get second opinions from others I’m just overly cautious about a lot, worried I’m gonna say something or that I’m doing something wrong. Thank you all!!

I’ll try not to worry as much.
How was everyone’s little ones when they were a month? Working in a baby unit doesn’t give much experience as you might think

In what respect at 1 month , do you mean feeding, napping, needing to be held all the time?

What was she saying when she raised the voice? I can't understand what would be necessary to do that.
For what is worth, our HV was much better, very friendly, she did stay way longer than we expected both times as we thought it would just be weighing, but she came up with lots of general advice based on any concerns, also did mental health screening and observed breast feeding and on the second visit checked things like smiling and eyes contact.
She was also keen to present things in an evidence based way and said although people will tell you their own experience of their children, the hv team has much broader research to draw upon so they can put your mind at rest in the long term. Which was helpful when we are worrying about feeding and they just weigh the baby and say don't worry, the baby is putting on weight fine and looks healthy, it will get better but nothing is going wrong so far.