Feeling wretched, please please help

[munchymoo]

Just been in the car for 45 minutes with crying overtired baby who is just 3 months old, tried to stop and comfort him but not successful, got home and he was still screaming, my 4 year old is really struggling with transition to new sibling and I had in my head that baby would sleep when we got home so that I could have some one on one time with my older child which he so desperately needs.

I was feeling so wound up in the car but held it together and tried to sing and generally be normal but just now when we got back my frustration spilt over and I put my baby down on the sofa (safely) and then picked him up again too quickly which made him cry more.

I feel like a monster. I’d never, ever hurt him but I’m now sat here sobbing for how I’ve treated my tiny little baby. Please help. Am I the only mum who has ever done this? Can anyone help me please? I don’t have PND and generally am fine with lots of support; I just lost my patience but feel like I can’t imagine anyone else doing this and so feel hideous about myself :-(

You're not the only parent who has picked uk a baby hastily in frustration . Th endless crying and not sleeping can break anyone , please be kind to yourself . You're doing a wonderful job .

Do not beat yourself up! You are only human and doing the very best you can.

I don’t have any real advice about calming your youngest down but I would suggest putting them somewhere safe & getting yourself & the older one a drink and sitting down for a minute.

Remember you are doing an AMAZING job and littlest will remember nothing about this

I have an almost 6 month old and I’m probably like this every other day. Sometimes the crying actually sends me insane. Please don’t worry.

Thank you ladies

I’m not sure it’s so clear in my post but basically what I meant when I said I picked him up too quickly is that I wasn’t as gentle as I should have been and picked him up abruptly. His little head bopped forward which as soon as it happened I felt horrified
with myself. Like I’d been way too rough and lost it with a tiny baby :-(

Be kind to yourself. We are all human and it’s gets a bit much sometimes. The fact you have made this post shows you are a caring mum. As a PP said, if you find yourself in the situation again, take yourself out of the room (assuming the baby is somewhere safe) and give yourself a moment to calm down.

You haven’t harmed your baby, they will never remember you picked them up a bit quickly and roughly once - try not to beat yourself up about it. We’ve all (or most of us!) been there xxx