Guys how the actual f*%# do you cope when both parents have work? My baby (8m) and toddler (just turned 2) are both terrible sleepers and often I take the brunt of both as I’m still on maternity leave but I have had to ask my husband for help the last few nights as I’ve literally been surviving on two hours sleep a night and felt like I was going to collapse….He did help (got up at 5 with 2yo, let me sleep for a couple of hours in morning etc) but he works from home he keeps moaning that he’s getting behind because he’s tired etc. He has a very demanding self employed job which is mostly from home but sometimes in an office.
In March I’m supposed to be going Back to work, it’s only 2 to 3 days a week but long days / quite stressful and at the moment we are having bad nights every single night!
I know for a fact if I had to go to work right now I would just cry! My husband is the main breadwinner by a LONG shot where is my wages are fairly negligible in the sense that for at least a year they will all go on childcare…after that a large proportion will still go on childcare for the youngest. So how the hell do you cope if you are both working the next day and all the sleepless nights are a regular occurrence?! I mean, several nights in a row off around 2 to 3 hours broken sleep.
For reference - the 8month old who I am trying to reduce night feeds with, but it’s not going so well, plus she is teething terribly at the moment and has been for ages ! My two-year-old was doing quite well at sleeping through but always wakes up at 4:30 or 5 am… However even that has gone to shit over the past couple of weeks as I suspect she’s having bad dreams. She keeps waking up two or 3 am and crying/being very clingy for a couple of hours even though there is nothing physically wrong with her! On top of this we have had a series of contagious illnesses that my two-year-old caught from childcare and passed to my baby .... help and advice needed !! Thanks