2yo throwing

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My 2.5 yo has throwing and hitting episodes that last all afternoon and I've reached the end of my tether with it. He threw something without looking yesterday and hit the tv and now it's proper fucked.

He gets a warning. Then he gets sat down in a time out and we count to five. Then it's a time out in his bedroom. Although in reality there are gaps in between of good behaviour so it feels like I'm issuing warnings and time outs willy nilly.

He thinks it's fucking hilarious. He'll cry when told off. I talk about what and why it's wrong we count to 5 and kids and make up then he's right back to laughing and hitting or kicking or throwing. What am I doing wrong?

Constructive throwing might be your way forward. This is a phase they seem to go through. Just been through it in this house.

Our weapons of cure have been wooden Skittles, throwing bean bags in a bowl, Gruffalo bean bag throw game, and a child’s dartboard. I figured if it was a ‘phase’ then we just needed to channel the throwing into something more positive so it wasn’t a battle. She gets to throw and learn (our beanbags have numbers on and are different colours) and no one is this house is being knocked out by random blocks of flying Duplo anymore.

She’s now got a better over arm throw than most cricket bowlers

I agree with pp about constructive throwing. My dd2 was about 2 when she started throwing. We had "throwing games". Made targets, had plastic mixing bowl, mop bucket etc and those balls you get in a ball pool.

Just wanted to mention that sitting with your child in time out and counting to 5 wont work. You have to sit him there and leave him there for a minute or 2 and go back and explain. If he gets up put him back.

Also, anything he throws, take it straight off him, say "we are not throwing this". Put the item away. Ignore the tantrum that follows.

Dd1 threw a toy at the tv when she was 4. Smashed the screen. She got a good telling off and sat on time out for 5 mins.

Oh and hitting. I dont give warnings for violence. If theres hitting, kicking, biting etc, "we do not hit, kick, bite" very sternly and straight on time out.

People think its harsh because they're only 2-3 but this us the best age to learn right and wrong because its much harder to deal with when they're older

Thank you! Currently googling throwing games, the numbered beanbags sound great.

I was hoping the time outs were more like time ins - currently all the rage in gentle discipline. He definitely wouldn't stay sat on a step by himself. His language isn't great yet so I worry about how much he understands.

Once he starts the mischief I do try and channel it into running games or we dance. The worst behaviour happens when I can't react immediately because of dd.

throw things back at them bruv works for vikkstar and jaquise

Agree with redirecting into something he is allowed to throw.

You mention DD in your update - have you recently had a baby? Because that could be part of his behaviour.

I have a nearly 7mo dd. DS has been quite accepting of her but I think has realised he can get away with a lot more if she's feeding or napping on me. He was also trying to be rocked and spoonfed yesterday so there's probably some jealousy there.