STARTING POTTY TRAINING IN SEPTEMBER!! HELP!

[PEONY1318]

Hi

My LO goes to nursery and will be moving to the older class in september where they will help you to potty train if you start yourself.... have been putting this off for ages but as no. 2 is due at Christmas , would ideally like no.1 to be trained by then.

The thing is I know he is aware of when he is doing no.1 and no.2 (that means he's ready right?), have put him on potty a number times before his bath time and he manages to pee into it, thus resulting in a sticky star for him...He even asks for the potty in the bath (whcih I am not happy about but DH gives him a cup to pee in- don't ask) THE PROBLEM is NO. 2s!!! He refuses to do one in the potty!!! He knows when he needs to poo because he always runs off and hides somewhere where it is quiet at home and does it there AND he refuses to allow you anywhere near him or watch him otherwise he will stop and find another hiding place! And if you ask him if he wants the potty he says no!
I am worried that he's going to be one of those toddlers who refuses to do a poo in the potty! ARRGH ! ANY tips!!!???

could be that he does not want to poo in public (i.e. in front of you) rather than a phobia about the potty. Can you put the potty in a quiet place and see what happens? Don't watch him but just say afterwards wow did you do a poo in the potty darling, well done.

hi peony,

how old is your ds? I would say that if he is happy to wee in the potty then go with that and let him poo in his nappy until he feels comfortable using the potty. Think it is quite common for toddlers to be reticent about pooing in the potty initially so I certainly wouldn't worry. I am also trying to train my dd (22 months) as new baby also due at Christmas so am also hoping for the best... let us know how you get on

personally I think that if you have decided to potty train then the first thing to do is take away nappies completely apart from at night and at nap times. So if he won't poo on the potty he'll do it in his pants and the sensation of that will encourage him to do it in the potty.

think boys also have performance anxiety about poos and wees and in early stages could idea to let them make the decision. Remind them that it is there but don't put them on unless they specifically ask for it. You will often find that they will go over and sit on it without prompting.

i give my dd 15mo no nappy time and in this time i will make a point of going toilet every 5-10mins and i will take her and sit her on toilet and i continue to do this over and hour or two iyswim to get her used to sitting on the toilet, as for the not pooing on the potty you could try sticking the potty in the toilet/bathroom and shuting the door too standing out of sight and asking him to shout you when he has done! it worked for my ss boys!

I too have done the bath cup thing, they grow out of it.

The poo thing, you will have to be really softly softly, good idea from witchandchips, our DS2 was really bad and it only really stopped when he realised no one else pooed their pants in a corner at 3yrs old.

He sometimes still does go and squat down or hides under the table and then when he is completely sure he needs to go rushes to the loo (6 now!)So I think I must have traumatised him by being angry!! Lots of rewards for trying even if no results maybe and def no pressure. Maybe ask where he would like to do a poo and accomadate him until he relaxes about it. eg news paper in hiding place????

I have since heard that some kids don't have the same sensations of needing a poo as most poeple but have not tried to find out about it as he is clean now.

My thoughts are with you, pottytraining DS3 (22 months ) next week. Good luck

Was thinking of trying my ds2 when dd1 goes back to school.(house bit less mad).

he is 22 months and says poo, at the right time. keep my fingers crossed it goes to plan.

Thanks everybody for the input... ]

Good luck Skidaddle, my Lo is 26 months! I will let you know how I get on with the potty training... wishing you luck too..let ME know HOW YOU GET ON!

Meandmy - I think I'll try your suggestion about leaving the potty in the bathroom and letting him get on with it.... he is exactly like his father!!!

Good luck everybody with the potty training and please keep reporting on your journey to nappy free land!

HBi Skidaddle!! Have you had your baby yet? Our dd2 arrived on 22 nd Dec just in time for christmas... DD1 is now potty trained.. well before DD2 arrived and he seems to be going well even with the new arrival... how did your potty training go?????