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Partner appreciation post.

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SexlessBoulderBelly · 05/01/2020 18:53

I wanted to write a appreciation post for my Partner because I’m only on day 5 of post birth, so hormones are crashing and emotions are high. I won’t be able to tell him half the things I’m grateful for him doing the last 5 days because I will cry too much (agh bloody pregnancy.. never been an openly emotional person!) And also so that when I feel like I can hold myself together enough I don’t forget exactly what I want to thank him for.

  1. when I found out a c section was the safest option, he was extremely supportive and could tell when I was worried even when I didn’t think I was.

  2. going in for the c section he didn’t bombard me with false reassurances, just just talked to me and kept me focused.

  3. he was not scared at all to get stuck in with baby when she arrived, I was a little worried he would be reluctant and worried about doing the wrong thing, but he well and truly got his foot in the door and was changing nappies without asking, despite admitting months ago that he was intimidated about having to change nappies as he didn’t want to hurt her or do anything wrong. He just got completely stuck in.

He even tells me now what her poos should look like, what her cord is looking like as it’s about to drop off, and how often she should be having dirty nappies. I asked him how he knew so much and he had spent some of his time at the hospital reading all of the posters on the wall and making notes of things he thought would help reassure us that we’re doing fine even when we think we’re not.

  1. he took the baby from me today and put her down in her crib and told me to go and have a sleep. I woke up 3 hours later and could hear him downstairs talking to the baby while he changed her nappy, first about changing her nappy and then about being grizzly and not wanting to ‘wake up mummy’ - there Was something about listening to him talk to her that made me feel so overwhelmed.
    When I came downstairs he got me my painkillers and gave me baby to feed, made sure I was comfortable and said I looked better for having a sleep.

  2. my OH is very much a throw a frozen pizza in the oven type. While I enjoy fresh veg and home cooked meals. He popped up the shop this morning to get me more maternity pads, but he also brought lots of things to make dinner.
    Well he’s just cooked me a beautiful bit of salmon with new potatoes and vegetables.

He brilliant during the night, we will take it in turns to smooth and feed the baby (if I expressed) so that the other can sleep, and he hasn’t once hugged, puffed or sighed about anything.

We talked about how difficult the first few days were going to be as we both had very different upbringings and we’ve discussed a few things that we’ve disagreed on it wanted to do differently. But so far we’ve worked so well as a team and I just can’t believe I had even the slightest bit of worry about him.

Feel free to post an appreciation for your significant others!

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Justkeeprollingalong · 05/01/2020 18:56

He sounds like a keeper!

SexlessBoulderBelly · 05/01/2020 21:45

He definitely is!

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Abouttimemum · 05/01/2020 22:12

Exactly what a partner / father should be like 👏 Good man.
Mine’s the same, just gets on with it like I do. Our lad is 50% his baby after all!

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Fivebyfive2 · 05/01/2020 22:22

My dh is the same, we are 3 weeks in and he goes back to work tomorrow, dreading it! He had a little wobble the 2nd night we had the baby home, he got quite teary and said he was worried about holding him wrong all the time. We had a good chat and since then he's been so much more confident. We're just trying to work out a night time routine for when he's at work, hopefully we will get there!

Gillian1980 · 05/01/2020 23:47

He sounds wonderful 😊

HoneyBee03 · 06/01/2020 10:26

He sounds fantastic! My DH is also bloody wonderful. DS is a toddler now and although parenthood has caused plenty of ups and downs (as it generally does) DH really pulls his weight.

I remember when I was on maternity leave I was so exhausted I would forget to eat or drink, so when he made his lunch for work in the morning he would make me a sandwich and pop it in the fridge for me. Such a small thing that I appreciated so much.

SexlessBoulderBelly · 06/01/2020 11:17

It’s the little things that are most appreciated, the things that you wouldn’t think of but make a huge difference.

He’s been writing down exactly what time I’ve taken what pain killers, and making sure that I don’t go without.. (maybe he’s actually trying to kill me off?!?

We’re also having to wake baby for feeds as she has a bit of jaundice and has lost a fair bit of her birth weight so we’ve got people out everyday to weigh her and take blood. OH has been setting alarms and waking me up when she’s ready for a feed, then sterilises all the pump so I can express some milk to give top ups and so he can feed her when I’m sleeping.

I really am truly grateful for himFlowers

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Meshy12 · 07/01/2020 02:09

He sounds like a lovely man and what a lovely post - I hope he gets to see it!

Congrats on the birth of your little one.

How are you feeling - I hope ok given the hormones and newness of it all!

2beautifulbabs · 07/01/2020 07:12

My DH is the same he's been a fantastic father to both our DC and a partner to myself he's allowed me to get sleep he's had his fair share of late nights early mornings with our DCs despite him working and me being a sahm for the time being he's never once said I shouldn't need more sleep than him it's always been shared out equally.

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