Arguing

[paintedpanda]

I have a DD aged 9 and a DS aged 7 and all they do is argue and bicker and it's over the most stupid and mundane things. I don't think I've even heard them have a normal conversation. It's always a disagreement, always.
It's stupid things too, like he put his clothes where she didn't like and she moved them and then he kicked up a fuss because she'd moved them somewhere he didn't like.
It doesn't end in a proper scrap; it usually ends with me telling them to stop bickering. Occasionally one will hit the other and then the other will retaliate and hit back, but this is rare.
They do share a room. I don't know whether this has anything to do with it, but it means we can't separate them, as it means one is in bedroom and one is in lounge which has all the toys, tv etc.
I don't know what to do. I'm so sick of listening to it and I feel like a broken record, stuck replaying "will you please stop arguing????" all day. It's starting to bring my mood down because I don't want to be with them when they can't speak to each other without arguing. They're so polite to others, adults and children; just not each other. What can I do? Is this normal for siblings to argue this much? I don't remember doing it this much with my sister.

They've outgrown sharing a room. I realise there may be no easy solution to that for you at the moment but please see what you can do.
Good luck.

It’s normal and will probably get worse as your DD reaches puberty (if she hasn’t already). I agree that they each need their own space at night — would be tempted to sort out a sleeping arrangement for your 7 yo downstairs so he has access to toys etc.

Yes, it is normal. I have brought up three DDs and had lots of this.

Our absolute priority when we last moved house (18 years ago now) was that we had to be able to give a bedroom to each of them, as they do fairly quickly outgrow room sharing.

I suspect that if at all possible sorting out the sleeping arrangements will help. They need some space th

Sorry, hit send a bit too soon. They need some space that they can call their own if at all possible.

I really do think they have outgrown sharing a room, but wasn't sure if that would resolve the problem. I know it isn't going to resolve fully; kids are gonna argue, but they can't seem to be around each other for any space of time without it. We will be moving in the future but, at the moment, only to a similar sized house, but I'll definitely put it as a priority. Thanks all