What should I be doing with baby?

[Ilovethekitties]

Hi all,

Not sure if this is ridiculous or not to ask, but is there anything specifically I should be doing with my son?

Our routine is 4 hourly, nappy change, feed, sleep, repeat. He is only awake about 5 hours a day which I engage with him by talking (adult and baby talk), read him a book and we do tummy time. Lots of cuddles in the day too whilst he sleeps.

Is there anything else I can be doing with him in this time? I know it sounds stupid but I'm worried that he sleeps all the time and I feel I should be teaching him stuff.

First baby, obviously.

He is 19 days old.

All he needs is cuddles and talking, a song if you fancy it. At this age they can only focus on the distance from your boobs to your face.

Are you feeding on demand?

Congratulations on your baby! No advice really other than to make sure you enjoy the moments you can. He's so little so lots of cuddles and interaction is great.

I read this article the other day and it helped me realise that it's ok to do nothing sometimes - as long as all needs are met obviously.

www.janetlansbury.com/2009/10/blue-sky-thinking/

At 19 days old there is literally nothing else he needs that you aren't already doing. Nice walk out in the fresh air each day even if just for 20 mins.

I remember feeling equally exhausted and bored in the first months. Feeling like I should be having proper interactions or games. Second baby made much more sense - they slept/fed while life carried on because I was chasing DS1 around. You really don't need to be doing anything except feeding changing and napping baby, and walks are nice. If you're feeling well you could look up local baby groups - for you to build up a parent support network so you can sit with other mums doing the same as you. Then when baby is older (4/5/6 months) he will be a bit more aware and will be interacting more.

Sounds like you're doing a great job. Enjoy those days I found those most relaxing. Mine is now 6 months old and I can't get a moments peace 😫

Sounds like you're doing a great job. there is an app called Baby Sparks I have enjoyed which suggests a couple of little activities you can do a day to develop motor skills etc but it's just fun, I'd be surprised if it makes any difference developmentally

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Honestly your baby is in the 4th trimester and most likely still thinks he's part of you! Zero need to 'teach', I'd say step away from the books and just enjoy your baby!

When we were babies tummy time wasn't even 'a thing'.

Just relax and enjoy.

Thanks guys! I have just been worrying I'm not doing enough. I'm going to try and put my feet up and relax to enjoy all the time I have with him in the moment.