Hi,
I am a 39year old woman, 40 in a couple of months. I have a 17year old daughter who will be 18 in a couple of months and have my fiancé, we have been together for almost 2 years. We live in a small 2 bedroom flat, both have full time employment, but I bring home the bigger salary. He is 8 years younger than me. We have been focusing on our relationship recently as he seems to be quite immature and we have been trying to work on that and then now have just found out I'm pregnant, about 6/7 weeks. I am so scared and just do not know what to do. I have my daughter who is about to go off to university and I thought I then begin to start a whole new chapter and travel, change jobs and focus on me. However this now has completely put a spanner in the works. I feel so guilty because I do not know if I am happy about it or not. I'm not sure its the right decision for us now especially as we are working on our relationship and I'm not sure that it will work out and I didn't want to be a single parent again as I was one with my daughter for many years. Financially we are not secure, we only rent and do not own a property and we heavily rely on my salary. I am also overweight and probably not at my best, I had already identified this and had started to make a change. I am worried about the health risks and something happening to me or the baby. My fiancé is great and he is the kindest, sweetest man I know and my daughter adores him and he so desperately wants a family but for me I'm just not sure and I feel so alone and worried about it all. Everything would change and I am not sure how I feel about it all and I feel so guilty for thinking all of this, but I am not young, I am almost 40 and I need to be realistic and sure. Advice would be really great.