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11 year old son can't sit still.

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duckme · 02/01/2020 20:59

My eldest son has always been a fidgeter. It was bought up during parents evenings while he was at primary school a couple of times but hasn't been mentioned since then.
However, we've all been at home together a lot over the Christmas break and I've noticed just how much of a fidget he is!
If we're watching a film, he is just moving around the whole time. He'll be sat on the sofa and the next minute he's upside down on it, then lying on the floor, then he'll lie on the floor but will be moving his legs about so that he ends up looking like a contortionist! It's as though it's physically uncomfortable for him to sit still.
He's the same when he's in bed. I've often said he's like the hands on a clock during the night, he'll move round 360 degrees!
He can sit still if he's playing computer games though.
I'm not sure if this is related, but it seems as though he can't/won't listen to instructions or learn from past behaviour. For example, I can tell him every single day to hang his blazer up when he gets in from school or put his shoes away yet every day, this isn't done.
Is this just a boy thing?
He's also very impulsive and immature and says things he thinks are funny but are not appropriate for the time/place.
I'm concerned that he could have ADHD or something similar but similarly don't want to put a 'label' on what could just be immaturity or bad behaviour. However, I don't want to miss out on getting a diagnosis just because I don't want to risk labelling him.
Parents of boys with ADHD, does this behaviour sound similar to you? Am I over reacting? Any ideas on how to encourage him to act sensible and bloody sit still?
Any help or advice will be gratefully received!

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diddlediddle · 02/01/2020 21:46

Ask for a referral for an assessment for developmental conditions including adhd.

If your son gets a diagnosis it won't be "labelling" him - it will enable access treatment that will help. Whether or not you get a diagnosis your son will be the same - the issue will exist either way - getting a diagnosis doesn't make him and different. Similarly if a diagnosis is ruled out.

Good luck x

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