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Newborn and party

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Mamabear12 · 31/12/2019 08:22

Well, not so newborn as she is 3 weeks and 2 days old, but still need to be careful. Close friends invited us to a NYE party. My dh and kids want to go and I’m debating if we should go or not. I’m fine to send dh and kids. But would also love to see my friends who are visiting from out of country (they have a country house here). I only see them once or twice a year as they live 8 hour flight away. She is my best friend of 20 years and godmother to my first dc. My worry is there will be about 30 people there...so exposure to potential germs. Also, it’s an hour drive away. Not to mention we are basically breastfeeding most of the day or she is sleeping. She keeps me busy. But these are things I could do while at my friends (big house so I can access a quiet spot/room when needed). However, wondering if I’m crazy to think about going and it’s better to just stay home?

What would you do and why?

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Selfsettling3 · 31/12/2019 08:54

I wouldn’t go because of the distance. At that age they should only be in car seat for 30 mins at a time. Can you meet up during the day in the next few days for lunch at a half way point?

HoneyBee03 · 31/12/2019 09:34

I would go. An hour car journey sounds okay as a one-off. I live an hour away from supermarkets, town, hospital, etc. so would have been very stuck with my newborn if I didn't go on a journey longer than 30 mins! Just stop halfway if needed.

I went to a big family party when DS was 3 weeks old and it was lovely. I found a quiet corner and people came to me to chat, bring me food and drinks while I breastfed, closest relatives would give the baby a cuddle while he slept to give me break when I wanted it. The owners of the house also gave me a spare bedroom to use as a base if I wanted some privacy, to change a nappy, etc. It was great!

20viona · 31/12/2019 09:35

I'd go all the baby will do is sleep and feed.

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MissBehaving1000 · 31/12/2019 09:36

I'd go.

An hour isn't that long and you have privacy once there to feed etc.

Would be a shame to not see your friend.

BertrandRussell · 31/12/2019 09:39

Definitely go if you feel up to it. The baby will be perfectly fine!

TokyoSushi · 31/12/2019 09:44

Yes I'd go to!

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Mamabear12 · 31/12/2019 09:44

Thanks for the feedback! To the poster that said babies should only be in a car seat for 30 minutes, I wasn’t aware of that. Is there a guideline for this? We don’t drive as we don’t have a car and would rent or take a taxi (she has a car seat that she went in once for 15 minutes on way home from hospital).

I’m still debating. Hmm.

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TokyoSushi · 31/12/2019 09:44

**too!

OceanSunFish · 31/12/2019 09:46

Go!

fruityconfusedhotdog · 31/12/2019 09:46

I'd go! I took my eldest to a Hogmanay party at the same age and she mostly fed and slept, including sleeping through bagpipes! (Nothing wrong with getting babies used to noise any business - mine, now aged 5, sleeps anywhere and through anything!)

If there's a quiet space you can retreat to if you want that's perfect, and as a PP said you'll probably find you can find a corner and settle in to feed and people will come to you.

Have fun whatever you decide

fruityconfusedhotdog · 31/12/2019 09:47

That should have said "noise and busyness" not business!

CurlyWurlyTwirly · 31/12/2019 09:48

Just don’t leave the baby in the car seat to sleep.
That v shape is not good for their spine.
Take a Moses basket or wear her in a sling

modgepodge · 31/12/2019 11:43

I’d go! I was unaware of the 30 min guidelines when mine was tiny, thought it was 2 hours (which we did stick to). We had to take ours to a hospital over an hours drive away when she was 3 weeks and 5 weeks old so didn’t have any choice about whether to travel or not. It was fine. If you’re really worried, stop half way.

BertrandRussell · 31/12/2019 14:38

As far as I am aware, the 30 minutes thing is based on some very limited and not followed up research on very new babies in 2014.

2020yeah · 31/12/2019 14:40

I took my baby to a wedding at that age, it was fine, she dozed on my lap and fed and everyone cooed over her. If its a party you would enjoy going to, I say go.

BackforGood · 31/12/2019 14:48

I'd snuggle up in the comfort of my own home for a bit of peace, and let dh take the other dc.
I love a prty yself, but I wouldn't love a party when I had a 3 week old. Just get your slouchy clothes on and a film or box set and relax.
Dressing up for a party, and having to watch my dc as they get tireder and look after a newborn ? No thanks,

bloodywhitecat · 31/12/2019 15:40

This is the car seat thing about 30 minutes (taken from the NHS website)

sh13 · 01/01/2020 21:29

The 30 min car seat thing is really over the top just don’t let them sleep in it for hours on end as it affects there airway as there heads tilted down

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