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Changing girl nappies

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Bubblebubble123 · 27/12/2019 20:47

I’m due my second baby any day now. My husband has said that if it’s a girl he’s not really comfortable changing nappies. He has no sisters and not really close to his mother. I wonder has this something to do with it. Has this happened to anyone else? He’s going to have to get used to it I suppose as I will need help. I assume his feelings will change once she’s here (if it’s a she!)

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 27/12/2019 20:48

Is this for real?

mousemousse · 27/12/2019 20:49

I can't understand why?

Selfsettling3 · 27/12/2019 20:49

What would he rather do? Let his baby sit in poo?

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Sexnotgender · 27/12/2019 20:50

Why on earth would he be uncomfortable?

Selfsettling3 · 27/12/2019 20:51

Or does he just mean he doesn’t know how to do it?

Mrsducky88 · 27/12/2019 20:52

Well that’s a new excuse for getting out of changing nappies, tell him to suck it up and get on with it!

KMoKMo · 27/12/2019 20:53

What have sisters and mothers got to do with it? Has he actually said that? What is his problem exactly?

Elbeagle · 27/12/2019 20:53

I assume you change your son’s nappies? Does he think that’s weird too?

BigFatLiar · 27/12/2019 20:53

Just nerves, he'll be fine. Has he said what worries him?

legalseagull · 27/12/2019 20:54

Why is he sexualising his baby girl. That's really disgusting OP. Red flags all over

CloudyVanilla · 27/12/2019 20:55

Hope this is a troll post

ElluesPichulobu · 27/12/2019 20:56

he just needs to learn to wipe front to back to avoid UTIs. it's no big deal. no he does not get to opt out of his fair share of nappies from some prudish weirdness about seeing his daughter's bum.

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Bubblebubble123 · 27/12/2019 20:58

Well he’s never changed a girl nappy before. He had never changed any kind of nappy till we had our son and I suppose obviously he’s more familiar with how to go about cleaning boy bits!! I think he finds it a bit strange for a man to do it. I do think once she’s here he’ll feel differently.

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holly40 · 27/12/2019 20:58

What on earth?
I would be feeling very uncomfortable if I were you.

SproutsAreForLife · 27/12/2019 20:58

What do you mean by you will need help? This suggests that the baby is entirely your responsibility and he might help you?

Elbeagle · 27/12/2019 21:00

Well he’s never changed a girl nappy before

Neither had my DH until our DD was born. Neither had I, in fact.
Again, does he think it’s weird that you change your DS’s nappy? If not, why is it different?
What about bathing her? Is he going to opt out of that too?

InsertFunnyUsername · 27/12/2019 21:00

What dad even thinks like this

Hel be raising his child and keeping them clean, genitals shouldn't affect that.

titchy · 27/12/2019 21:01

he’s more familiar with how to go about cleaning boy bits!!

He's familiar with wiping shit off his balls? Really?

randomsabreuse · 27/12/2019 21:03

DH was slightly confused by DD's nappies initially - and from having had both there are definitely more places for poo to hide with girls!

That said I still find it weird cleaning boy bits - and the level of care needed to ensure everything was where it needed to be was a steep learning curve involving wet clothes and dry nappies!

AlbusSeverusMalfoy · 27/12/2019 21:04

My DP was 24 when we had our DD. He'd never changed a girls nappy, neither had I. But we got on with it. He changed her when it needed doing. We then had our DS. Neither of us has ever changed a boys nappy. Guess what? We just got on with it ..

JKScot4 · 27/12/2019 21:05

He’s obviously seen your fanny more than once!!
It’s not difficult to figure out!

Clangus00 · 27/12/2019 21:11

Wow!

BigFatLiar · 27/12/2019 21:11

Is he equally bothered about bathing her?

kristallen · 27/12/2019 21:24

My DH was like this. I let it go at the beginning because of other reasons but after the first month though I told him he had to do it and then left him to it. Maybe showed him once, that was it. I didn't move to help, I didn't get out of my chair or stop what I was doing if he was near her and she needed changing. He got the hang of it really quickly, no idea why he was scared exactly but I couldn't care less. That sounds really harsh but as a mother to a new baby and a toddler I didn't have the energy to baby him too. He needed to man up and get the job done. He did it fine and is a very hands on dad with her.

I'd not spend much time giving air to his concerns tbh. Be very matter of fact and no nonsense when the time comes. This is a baby, HIS baby and babies pee and poo. They also need to feed and they need baths and clothes changed. Very mundane, normal things and he doesn't get to opt out of any of i (except obviously breastfeeding, if you go down that route).

GameSetMatch · 27/12/2019 21:30

I think it’s just nerves talking, he will be fine when he has done it once or twice. Both parents get nerves and the ‘what ifs’ before baby arrives.

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