AIBU to tell my friend about her DD drug taking

[TheoneandObi]

I'm unsure what to do. Big multi family Xmas party Saturday night and friend's DD who is 21 told my DD about her extensive drug taking. Just about everything really. I'd known she dabbled but was quite shocked at the extent. The DD has graduated and is working part time while looking for her 'dream job'. I like the DD a lot. And her mum and dad too. Should I let them know or it is it really none of my business bearing in mind the age? Please don't be harsh on me. I am genuinely torn.

This is tricky because she’s an adult.
What’s the extent of it? Weed, party drugs or heroin? She could have also been totally exaggerating.

Yep she's an adult. And no we don't think she was exaggerating. She ran with quite a rich druggy crowd at her uni (one where rich kids have a reputation for drug taking).
The drugs listed where cocaine, ecstasy, ket and of course weed.

You will come across as a nosy parker. She is an adult. It's not bloody heroin leave her be.

You will also out your own dd as a tattle tale.

I wouldn’t say anything.

@jasonpollack let is far worse than heroin. All these are addictive. No drug is 'batter's or 'worse'

Ket not let

@TheCWord dont be ridiculous ket is absolutely not worse than heroin, my goodness! It is used recreationally as a party drug.

OP I'd tell her mum, theres likely not much she can do as she is an adult but I'd want to know if it was my 21year old because whilst I likely cant stop them as they are an adult. I'd rather they know I know and can reach out to me if they ever need any help.

That used to be my dd you have described.

Yes, I would want to know.

You could consider talking to her directly and say why you’re worried, but assure her you won’t say anything to her parents?

Quite common for uni kids to experiment. As long as it's not interfering in her life in any way ... a real 'druggy' with a problem would want to fly under the radar, not boast to another young person. I'd leave it

ket is far worse than heroin.

Absolutely not. Crazy talk.

OP - I personally wouldn't say anything, she has her dream job, is an adult & is not effecting you or your DD. Unless it was effecting her I would just stay quiet.

Given your update I’d say stay out, it’s not unusual to experiment.

I know it's not. But this has been going on for some time. She's graduated. She's nearly 22. She doesn't live at home and while I don't know the finances, I suspect she's being subsidised because I can't see any other way of her current part time job financing her lifestyle.
Anyway, thank you for your replies. In particular thank you to ParkheadParadise. i hope your daughter is safely out the other end. I need to have a think.
Merry christmas everyone x

Stay out of it.

@TheCWord you are entirely misinformed. K, although it is addictive, can be taken recreationally. Heroin can almost never be successfully used recreationally without succumbing to addiction. In addition, Heroin is chemically addictive i.e your body will become dependent on it and you will experience withdrawal symptoms which will make it harder to quit. K does not show true chemical dependance, although you can become psychologically addicted to it.

OK. that's quite a fine line Jason!
I have decided not to interfere. It seems to be general Mumsnet wisdom on the subject of drugs. I'm also constantly surprised at the ease with which some folk handle the subject. Anyway, thank you for your contributions. I will however keep a distant eye on my friend's DD. She is lovely. But has always seemed a bit of a lost soul. I hope she soon lands her dream job and that this behaviour is just a small bend in her road