Those with blended famalies how to you do Christmas?

[raindance12]

This is my second year with my partner, we both have 5 year old boys (from previous relationships) and don't live together. How does everyone celebrate Christmas with blended families, do you travel to family? Have family at yours? Do you do it all seperatly, I. E blood family together and step at another point ?

I have my son every year as his dad's not part of his life so we do Xmas at mine with my dad. My partner has his son for Xmas afternoon and evening this year (they alternate half days each year).

I'm just wondering how people juggle it all, me and my partner won't be seeing each other on Christmas. He wanted to stay Xmas eve and spend the moring with us but I didn't feel it was fair on his son to not spend anytime with us on Xmas or for me and my son to not see him. So I felt best to Xmas do seperatly.

But now it's basically Xmas it's getting me down that we won't all be together even for a few hours

Everyone's situations are different.

Where does your partner go with his son?

I'm part of a blended family. We would alternate Christmas at each parents house, but it would also depend on when my step sister's dad was free, and if they would be away in another country for Christmas. So some years we would all be there, another year it would just be our half siblings and then we'd have another Christmas day when everyone was back together.

Now though we just sort it out ourselves. Two of us are married, another 3 live away from home, and one has just come home when we weren't expecting it. 2 still live at home fulltime as they're under 16. Out of all of that, only 4 will be there Christmas day, we'll be there boxing day, and the others won't be around for a while due to other various reasons.

I was part of this as a child and we did the split day thing. It's why I hate Christmas. In fact, the one thing all my Christmas hating friends have in common is divorced but involved parents.

I think you're right to do Christmas separately if you aren't living together.