Leaving baby makes me feel anxious

[mtownson1]

Me and my OH have 2 kids- 2 and 11 weeks.

Tonight my OH wanted to take both kids to see his MIL. I have an autoimmune disease and was tired so I said I was going to stay home with baby and we had an argument about how I didn't want my 11 week old to go. Being away from her puts me on edge.

I felt like this with my first and it got better as she got older. Now she's 2 I'm totally fine with her going out with other people.

He made me feel like I was a crazy. Does anyone else feel this intense need to be with their babies when they're little?

Yes it's normal, it's so they don't get eaten by a woolly mammoth or something. :o

Yep. Quite a normal reaction, don't let anyone tell you otherwise!!

So so so normal!! I hated leaving dd until she was at least 6 months.

Totally normal. She's only tiny! She won't want to be without you either!

It was a year before any of mine were out of my sight!!
Including dh taking them out!!.

Totally normal, with such a young baby. Stay at home and snuggle.

Yes totally normal.

No I didn’t feel like this, but I had to go back to work when she was 13 weeks so I think mentally, I started her life knowing I’d be leaving her shortly.
If anything, I dislike leaving her now she’s older.

Yep, my DH organised a spa trip for me with my best friends, including one night away, and all i could think about was how i didn't want to leave the baby! It's evolution, can't help it!

It was a year before any of mine were out of my sight!!
Including dh taking them out!!.

That really nothing to boast about

Totally normal. If MIL wanted to see the baby too your OH could have brought her to you.

Totally normal, my 15 week old is feeding every hour anyway so practically its difficult anyway!

I understand how you feel, my son is only 15 weeks, but his Dad deserves time with him just as much as I and is more than welcome to take him out for a couple of hours. Perhaps look at this as a chance to have a bath. Let your husband know you will text or even call every half hour to check, but he is their father and I'd hope a good Dad if you've had a 2nd with him and is more than capable. I also understand you are not well but you have to be able to compromise somewhere. Everyone wants to see the children over Christmas, they're not being taken anywhere unsafe and I think you have to give a little leeway and feel "on edge" if you are unable to go with, as its also about how the rest feel. My 5 yr old DSS will not go anywhere without his little brother to show him off and I will never begrudge him that!

bruffin where in my post did I boast?
It was a factual statement.

It's normal. 11 weeks is tiny

It is totally normal. Do not allow people to make you believe otherwise. I still have a mild version of it leaving my 18 month old for the day(like today). I will be very glad to get home and see them.

It's odd- I totally wouldn't mind my OH taking her out in the sling for a walk or to the park or something but when I know he's taking her to be passed about and held by other people I feel funny.

It's healthy and normal. No way I'd be without a newborn of mine at all. Don't let anyone tell you it is anxiety or to get over it.

Very normal with such a tiny baby

I couldn’t WAIT to hand DS over to the inlaws... frankly I’d have left him out for the binmen if I’d thought they’d take him! But I had terrible terrible PND and hadn’t bonded, and this was one of the key signs. So wanting to be with your baby sounds far healthier to me.

Well, I think it's normal but actually not idea. Unless you're feeding constantly, getting a break while Dh takes responsibility can only be a good thing. But... if that's how you feel, then that's how you feel and frankly DH should respect that.

I have a 3 month old and she won't be leaving my side for a good while, other than staying with DH at home if I take toddler out for a walk on our own to get one on one time with them. It's normal!