I’m really struggling to cope with my DS, he’s 3 years 6 months old.
He constantly screams and cries. Today he was woken up a little bit earlier than normal and the result was him screaming and crying for 2 hours straight. It’s only stopped because I’ve finally managed to get him to sleep (although he may well wake again in ten minutes and spend another hour screaming the place down) This happens frequently. Sometimes even when he’s had enough sleep he will wake up not particularly happy and will just cry and scream for at least an hour straight, sometimes over 2 hours. I hate weekends, I hate school mornings trying to get my other DS (7) ready and everyone out the house whilst our 3-year-old just scream and tantrums for one reason. He is so so loud as well, full-on screaming like a banshee or chimpanzee.
He will frequently get upset throughout the day as well if something doesn’t go right or just be in a terrible mood where he doesn’t know what he wants. He bites and hits a lot as well, particularly his brother.
However at nursery (he goes 2 days per week) they don’t report any bad behaviour.
He’s generally quite ‘behind’ in other aspects- his language and speech is very limited. He was referred for SALT but after one session they said he did not need anymore because he ‘ticked’ certain boxes- eg. He can string together 3 words. However he only sometimes does this and it’s the same few sentences. He cannot tell me what’s wrong or what he needs. If I ask him what he has been up to at nursery/what he has done or eaten there then he doesn’t understand and I get silence. He is also not potty-trained yet.
I have contacted the health visitor a few months ago, she came over a couple of times and I asked for help. I got the referral for SALT I mentioned but other than that I just got letters saying my son was on a waiting list for some behaviour therapy and to have an assessment by a dr as the HV had some concerns. However several months later nothing has materialised.
I have just got to the point where I feel really sad/broken and stressed out. Holidays and family days out are a nightmare. Family life is horrible. I’m so stressed I can’t do anything or get on with anything. It’s just taking over all of our lives and I feel like a shitty mum not being able to deal with it.
Had anybody had similar toddler behaviour? Did it improve/they grow out of it? Was there an underlying reason?