Were you one of the first or last in your friendship group to become a parent?

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I actually one was one of the first to have a baby

One of the first.

First and currently only!

Last. Not by choice.

Why do you ask OP? How did you find it?

I was the first.

The first. I’m not in that friendship group anymore!

The first by a long way. It wasn't until I had my third that my friends were starting their families (they are far more sensible than me!)

I was the first by a long long way with dd1
I was the last by a long long way with dd2

First and proud! I have six , so I was the first with all of them. My sister is currently seven months pregnant with her son and I delivered my best friend's twins a month ago when she went into labour a month early when at my little brother's birthday party, awkward day if I'm honest.

Last. Only by a few months though. Only one of my friends had children young (late teens early twenties). The others were all in their thirties when they had children. I was forty when I had my first son and 42 for the second.

Second here.. and no-ones had one since so I’ll also be providing the 3rd child in March

I did NCT to meet some friends with children as I felt like it would be good to have some people in a similar boat! They’ve become great friends, I see them way more often to be honest! I don’t take it personally, it’s hard to understand how much a child takes over your life until you have one!

Very much the first by a long way!

I have a 13 year old, they’re on the whole childfree by choice or parents of very young children.

Last of my school friends. I was nearly 40. For uni friends. I was one of the first! A good few friends sadly had fertility problems.

Second among my group of friends and first among DH's. No other babies have appeared after DS. It is hard when the majority of your friends are at a different life stage and I look with envy in friendship groups where their kids are all very similar ages and they have fun get togethers.

I am the youngest (by about 6 years) of a group of friends. All childless, so when I announced my pregnancy (at age 36) there was a stunned silence before one said, "well - I suppose one of us had to do it!" Bizarrely, none of us had ever discussed having children prior to that...

One of the first

First- at 30. Most friends still only in the dating stage of their lives- i also really envy people that have actual friends with kids than having the navigate the hellish minefield that is making mum friends and suffering play dates with people you wouldnt authentically choose to hang out with

First by a long way (I expect).

The first, though we had our first when I was 31, friends are just quite a bit younger as is dh. We’ve had 2 now, some have had 1, a few haven’t had any. Nearly 40 now. Quite looking forward to being the ones with older dc who have life a bit back in one piece again when most are just getting started.

Last. Why?

First.

I was 27. All my closest friends started having babies at around 35/36-ish.

We were the first to start trying but 6 years down the line we still haven’t got a baby after fertility issues and some of our friends are two kids in by now. If we do manage a baby we will be in the last few.

I was 27 as well!

Not the first but one of the earlier ones.