Hi been sat in tears here as I really don't know if I'm in the wrong here. Basically me and my ex don't talk as he's been pretty horrible and doesn't help my mental health. So contact between us regarding our daughter has been going through my mum. All has been fine but a few times I've felt like shes tried take over the situation by making arrangements without going through me first. Usually she would check with me if he's asked to have her. He doesn't have set days he has her because of his work pattern. I always say yes to the days he asks anyway. Well tonight my mum popped round here and we was talking about my ex picking my daughter up this Saturday (21st) confirming times etc. Then my mum announces even though he's meant to have her xmas eve SHE'S not letting him know. Yes I probably had a face on me after that but next thing before I'd muttered a word my mum told me not to start. I told her I never said a word and she said no but it's your face. So I said well maybe it would have been nice if I'd have been told about it. I was very calm when I spoke. So she started having a go at me saying fine I wont bother and getting quite irate with me. Then she said well you only agreed for him to have her till about 7 xmas eve. I said no I said I wanted my daughter back about 4 as I'd want to get her bathed and settled for the evening. My mum then claims we exchanged texts over this. I said no I said I wanted my daughter back about 4. My mum then proceeds to start looking through her messages to then claim she doesn't have the message. I told her if you've sent me a message I haven't got it and definitely didn't agree to my ex having our daughter till 7. My mum got quite angry with me because I had calmly told her I would have liked to have known about her decided the ex couldn't have our daughter xmas eve. My daughter was present and got upset (which I feel bad for) my mum started saying I was upsetting my daughter. Then my mum got upset and started talking over. I said I'm not shouting I'm just saying it would be nice not to be in the dark about things when it concerns MY child. She said I was the most selfish person she has ever met and how she bends over backwards and I'm ungrateful. I told her I wasn't arguing and just felt like I'd been kept in the dark about xmas eve. Well I have been through my messages and there is no message with me agreeing to the ex having our daughter till 7. I know I agreed to 4pm. So I really don't know where my mum got 7pm from and why she was so adamant we had text about it. Also my daughter said it was my mum that made her upset. My mum kept cutting me off everytime I tried to talk and accusing me off going on. I said I wasn't and she kept talking over me so I wasn't able to explain myself. she let me talk for about 2 seconds before interrupting me again. Sorry it's long but if I'm wrong here I would like to know