Sleeping Advice

[no1babyno1]

Hiya,
I am in need of advice
My little girl has always slept through the night since she was 9weeks. I know right so lucky. Well this is know biting me in the bum. She is now 10 months.
Since she has started nursery at 8 months (she had to as I was returning to university ) she has decided she doesn't want to sleep in her cot.

If she is in my bed she sleeps fine.
This doesn't even have to be with me. I could get her out of her cot lay her in my bed and walk away and she's asleep. (Obviously I don't walk away, away I just go round the corner so she thinks I left the room. To see if she goes back to sleep and she does. Or alternatively I could just lay her on the floor and once again she's asleep. Which I can't just let her sleep on the floor when I'm asleep, as I don't have a door and she crawling all over the place now.

Background: she is still in our room as we currently are living with family members. So she can not be put in her own room as of yet.

Advice I've already been given that hasn't worked.

1. Leave her to cry and she will got back off in her own. She is stubborn so this didn't work plus it's too heartbreaking.
2. Changed cots

Tried a different mattress Tried the travel cot All different blankets

1. Letting her have a bottle in the bed to just grab if she wakes up. Just to see if she will have a bit and go back to sleep
2. The obvious like encouraging her to lay back down and go to sleep. Giving her her comfort blanket and teddy. Bits and bobs like that.

Please has anyone else got any other ideas.

Ditch your bed frame and put the mattress on the floor, make sure the room is baby proofed and if you can’t get a new door then use a stair gate instead?

@Expressedways I can't get a door. It's a big bedroom split big two. So the space left isn't really big enough for a door. Hard to explain properly.

Plus it's a small room Now due to the split. So everything is at reach eg the plugs they can't be covered either. Which is annoying, it's one of the reason I haven't let her sleep on the floor while I'm asleep.

Prime age for separation anxiety and big changes going on for her. Sounds like she just needs to know you are there. I went back to uni at 8 months and had the same from DS (though he never slept well before that). Personally I just had him in bed with me as I was doing 12 hour shifts on placement and needed to sleep (plus he bf constantly during the night).

Could you let her settle on bed then transfer her to cot which has been heated with a hot water bottle?
I think you are either going to have to cosleep or do some form of sleep training like controlled crying. Theres no magic solution unfortunately.
I wouldn't give her bottle in bed personally as it's not good for her teeth at all. Will she take a dummy?

We have this issue from time to time and son still sleeps in our room ( not that at one year he has ever slept through more than 4 times in his life , so I think it makes the broken sleep easier to bare as it’s normal )

So for example been ill so had to co sleep as snotty and being prompt up is all that works

Down side only wants to sleep in bed with us now ( which means no sleep for us )

I have managed to get him back in his cot for some resettles but it does involve and hour to two of battling and when this has happened in the past it does work with in a few days 🤞

Get to happy sleepy place then place in cot

Que screaming and standing at side of the cot.

I will calmly place back into laying position but only when standing.

Will not give much in way of eye contact when crying my rub back ... when son is quiet ( sometimes between sobs praise and stroke back )

As soon as cries remove eye contact praise and touch

... keep repeating until asleep ( Been doing its for two days husband is doing night duty and I just got a morning bottle he has gone off with out a hitch when women in night

Basically my theory is reward quiet baby who is settling ignore angry baby ( though still present ) if the crying becomes historical ( not often but some times ) I go through bottle/ nappy check list and then repeat.

So kinda controlled crying but I am there and he gets praise literally as soon as quiet and sitting or laying down.