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hi all,

my daughter is 3 weeks old. I of course am not naive and have slowly got used to sleepless nights and can handle being woken every 1-3 hours. however recently, say last weekish, when she has woken between 1 and 3 am she has become incredibly hard to settle. crying and fussing constantly no matter what I do, constant nappy changes, constant feeding, walking around, white noise machine, winding and she cries and squeals. this whole process can go on for up to 4/5 hours - the other night it was from half 2 until half 7. from what I've seen babies this age are not able to stay awake longer than 2 hours at a time so what on earth is this all about and why this particular time every night!?

anyone have any insight/advice on how to settle her a bit quicker as this is obviously a huge portion of the night. sounds really bad but I'm concerned about Christmas day too as me and partner will be shattered and probably sleep the whole way through which wont be ideal! should add I EBF however I dont think this is the issue as like i said not bothered about the constant wake ups just this huge chunk at night where I cant get her back down.

thanks! x

and even if I had met someone new in the last 2 months (I havent - have known and been involved with current partner before) what on earth would that have to do with you?

Completely normal OP. Sounds like colic or purple crying. It will improve.

thanks Russell - has been an exhausting couple weeks! feel sorry for her cos her belly gets all hard which I know is trapped wind but she gets this no matter how much I wind her :( which I know can be related to colic

My baby did stretches of 11 hours awake at night, she was like this until about 6 weeks. Nothing was wrong, she just grew out of it (now 18 wks).
It is why we co-sleep though! It became more dangerous for me to be up with her than feeding lying down and drifting off.

my daughter is still an awful sleeper now. went through a stage of a 3 hour stretch at the beginning of the night but she doesnt naturally go down until 11 so on a good night we would get to 2am. then feed them might go down for an hour or so and its pretty much like that the rest of the night. it's a bit depressing when I see people saying there baby does even 4/5 hour stretches - I would love that! last night it was gone midnight, then woke up at half 2 and went back down again about half 4 then since then I've probably had another hour. the nights are very long lol x

Any chance you can get someone else to take over?

my partner is working and so is my mum :( I also breastfeed so dont really ever get the chance to have a solid block. I keep just telling myself it will pass eventually

@MillitantMargo not sure why your post was deleted as it had some truth in it.

Reading your smoking post you have said yesterday your mum had your baby so not sure why you are contradicting yourself here. Without sounding mean maybe you could use that resource more and get some sleep.

Russell19 that was yesterday and it was a weekend, that is the first time since I've had her and this has been ongoing for weeks..not sure how or why people have the energy to go through others posts to try and catch them out when there is nothing to catch out lol. my child gives me on average 3 hours a night sleep. you said can anyone help today I said no as mum and partner are both working as in they work during the week? cannot believe I'm having to explain myself on this thread aswell because some busy body has gone through all my old posts, that is so so weird

and secondly what that other person wrote had nothing to do with me getting help from family lol, she wrote a vindictive message insinuating I was lying that I had left a previously abusive partner so please dont egg people like that on

Russell rather than blindly jumping to conclusions like that other person did and trying to imply I'm lying (again what a strange thing I would be lying about - I would love to get some sleep!) I suggest you looking at the date I originally posted this, it was well over a month ago. I dont get regular help at all as, like previously said, mum and partner both have full time jobs. mum helped over the weekend, sorry if you feel that is in some way misleading, it's not intended to be, it's just this is an old post that was brought back by that strange person who commented which is why this has got my back up