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Well we cracked the weeing, now help me with the poos!

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Northerner · 28/09/2004 15:05

Started potty training ds (2.5) on Saturday and although we're only on day 4 he is doing really well. Tells us every time he needs a wee, and is happy to go on big toilet or his potty. We even went to wacky warehouse yesterday afternoon for 2 hours and he told me when he needed to go. He has had no accidents with wees since Sunday. Fingers crossed. However, he has done a poo in his pants every day, going to hide in a corner to do it.

I know it's early days, and I think this is pretty normal, just wondered if anyone has any words of wisdom.

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catgirl · 28/09/2004 15:34

no words of wisdom, just that it took my ds longer to get the hang of poo-ing in the loo/potty than it did the wee-ing. Think (can't quite remember as wonderful childminder took charge and we followed orders!) that she just keep reinforcing how good he was and to say when he needed a poo. Good luck, sounds like your ds is doing really well.

emmagee · 28/09/2004 18:37

We are in the same predicament. He is happy to wee in potty or loo (prefers loo) but poos are another matter. I decided that maybe the big 'splash' was a worry so the other day we got him to do it on the potty which was fine. My problem is that with a 5 month old you can guarantee that when I go to put him down for a nap or do his nappy etc, 3 year old poos in pants! Also 3 year old has always been very self contained and happy to play on his own for ages - usually at the bottom of the garden, but now I feel I have to keep asking him if he wants to go and so neither of us get the space we want and I feel even more like a nag!

codswallop · 28/09/2004 18:46

boys are crap at poos IME
it took ds2 a good wtwo months afetr wees

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codswallop · 28/09/2004 18:47

boys are crap at poos IME
it took ds2 a good wtwo months afetr wees

cazzybabs · 28/09/2004 19:36

Its not boys - my dd won't poo on the loo. She says she needs it and sits on the loo and farts sometimes if we are luckly, but won't poo until she has ner nighttime nappy on - but is fine weeing in the loo and has been for about a month and a half now.

SofiaAmes · 28/09/2004 22:32

My dd took another 2 or 3 weeks after managing wees to do poos in the toilet too. She wasn't scared or anything, I just think she hadn't quite sussed out the different sensation. It didn't help that we were in Italy and she was constipated from the change in the water! She kept asking to go to the toilet every 10 min. and we eventually figured out that she needed a poo, but thought she needed a wee and didn't know how to use the muscles to push the poo out. She got the hand of it eventually.
I think it's really important not to make them feel bad or to tell them off for doing poos in their pants or weeing themselves. And also really important to really praise them up when they do a wee/poo in the toilet. You may think that's obvious advice, but I've seen quite a few parents do otherwise and then wonder why their children were afraid of the toilet.

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Northerner · 29/09/2004 10:24

Thanks for the advice. Today is is his first day at nursery in his pants, so fingers crossed it goes OK.

Yesterday dh was looking after him and he decided to drive him 30 minutes to our nearest American Golf discount store to buy a new bloody driver

Anyway, ds went and hid in the window display to do his poo and dh couldn't find him, ds wouldn't answer when dh called him. All of the staff and other customers were looking for him, then someone heard a rustiling in the window. For about 2 minutes dh was terrified he'd lost him.

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CountessDracula · 29/09/2004 10:31

Oh this thread has had me in fits of giggles! What do you think is the best age to start? Dd is only just two, I was going to wait until 2.5 but she starts nursery then and I gather it's not good to do it at a potentially stressful time - should I start earlier or later do you think?

mexico · 29/09/2004 10:49

My ds is 2yrs and 8 months and has had weeing on the potty/toilet cracked for around 2-3 months now, but still pooing in pants every day. We are laid back with him, it is hard to understand though as after he does it he says ' I have done a poo, can you change me?' Then whilst I am cleaning him up he says ' I should have done that on the potty/toilet', 'tomorrow I will do it on the potty and will get a present'. Still he is making progress as for ages he would deny he had done a poo and refuse to get changed!. I must admit it is a pain as if I am taking him shopping or playing at friends I feel I can't stand the thought of pooey pants (I am also 8.5 months pregnant so awkward to change him) so put him in pull-ups, although by and large he doesn't ever wee in those.
The worst thing though has to be picking him up from nursery every day and also picking up a wonderful pair or two of pooey pants! yuk!
I have tried every form of bribery and discussion with him and have now just decided to leave it and hope that one day he will sort it out for himself. I hope some of you have ds and dd's who have seen the light at the end of the tunnel to give me hope?!

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Northerner · 29/09/2004 10:56

It's a tricky one CD. Is she showing signs that she is 'ready'

I read the Gina ford book - potty training in 1 week (yeah right) Some of it is rubbish, but in principal it could work. She breaks up potty training into 2 stages. Stage 1 is when at home take off nappy and introduce to potty. No reminding and no pressure. I did this for a good few months and it seems to have paid off. For wees at least ..........

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CountessDracula · 29/09/2004 10:58

The thing is, I have these lovely new carpets.....

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Northerner · 29/09/2004 10:58

Thansk for that mexici, that's really interesting. Wonder if my ds will continue this for a few months Funny thing is every day he has said to me ' no poo in pants today mummy. Poo on toilet'

Think I'll just adopt a laid back approach and let nature take it's course!

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Northerner · 29/09/2004 10:59

Bad move CD! I have wooden floors.

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Northerner · 29/09/2004 10:59

In taht case wait untill she's at least 14

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emmagee · 30/09/2004 22:34

Northener, don't keep us hanging on, what is Stage 2?

zaphod · 30/09/2004 22:40

Same thing happened with ds, who is 2.5. I think it takes them longer to anticipate in time that they are going to poo, in order to be able to tell you they need the loo.

My ds took about 2 weeks before he began to poo on the toilet. This was about a week and a half ago, and have had no probs since.

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Northerner · 05/10/2004 10:24

Quick update here. Still doing really well with wee's, can't remember last time he had an accident. Poo's are still proving to be a nightmare. He didn't do one yesterday at all, but on Sunday I had to practically pin him on the loo Poor mite couldn't stand still, he was that desperate and kept hopping from one foot to another shouting 'poo coming', but would not sit on potty or toilet. So I had to hold him on and hug him to reassure him, he was crying to get off the whole time. Anyway, it came really quickly and he was happy as larry afterwards. But he had hung on to it for about an hour before hand.

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