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DS not getting crawling

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BlueMoon1103 · 08/12/2019 17:42

My DS is nine months old this week and he just doesn’t get crawling, he gets himself onto his front but just flips onto his tummy and can only move backwards. I’ve tried showing him what to do by tucking his legs under him but he just goes back onto his tummy again. He can’t even tuck his knees under himself he gets so frustrated and upset and most of his friends and crawl, he sits and watches them crawl off when we meet up shouting after them and can’t join in unless I move him everywhere they go. Any tips or reassurance that he will just wake up one day and know what to do?

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Winterdaysarehere · 08/12/2019 17:45

Relax and enjoy.
A crawling baby is ime a nightmare baby!!
My dgs crawled at 5 months!! Aahhhh!!
Your Christmas tree will remain delightful!!
Feel smug op. Very smug.

Sparrowlegs248 · 08/12/2019 17:46

Ds1 barely crawled. Just rolled around, then walked at just under 12 months. Ds2 crawled quite early, also walked at 11 months.

Sparrowlegs248 · 08/12/2019 17:47

Sorry, my point being, don't worry. Hell get there. Ds1 also only sat unaided properly at about 9 months. No issues whatsoever

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grandmasterstitch · 08/12/2019 17:48

DS has only just learnt to crawl and he's 22 months tomorrow. He's a bum shuffler and non walker. Not all children crawl and they all do things in their own time. Try to relax and enjoy a non mobile baby for Christmas!

Aquamarine1029 · 08/12/2019 17:49

Enjoy him not crawling away while you can, because it won't last long! Actually, my daughter never crawled, but she was walking like a pro at 8 months, which is a special kind of hell, I assure you.

RicStar · 08/12/2019 17:49

Some babies (ds1) never crawl, many manh crawl after 9 months old. Some (ds2) love to crawl so much he doesnt want to walk. They are all different and will do what they want not what you want or expect.

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BlueMoon1103 · 08/12/2019 17:50

I know you’re try to help guys but I get really upset when people tell me to ‘relax’ and ‘enjoy’ when something is obviously bothering me. I’m aware all children do things at their own pace but this is becoming upsetting for my DS as he clearly wants to move and isn’t able to.

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JudgeRindersMinder · 08/12/2019 17:51

Not all babies crawl (and they’re a nightmare when they do!)
Non crawling at 9 months isn’t an issue, try to not stress about it

xmaself24 · 08/12/2019 17:52

There's nothing you can do about it. My ds only sat up unaided at 9 months then was fully walking at 13 months.

00100001 · 08/12/2019 17:53

But there's literally nothing you can do to make him crawl, so the only advice is to relax, because he will either just start crawling one day, or skip the crawling and move straight on to walking.

It is hard to watch them get frustrated, but it will only be for a few weeks and he won't remember it...nor will you :)

PatriciaHolm · 08/12/2019 17:53

I'm not entirely sure what you want us to say then. He will either get it, or he won't. He might bum shuffle, he might walk on his knees, he might bypass it altogether and be an early walker.

Whatever it is, you can't accelerate it for him, you just need to be patient.

JudgeRindersMinder · 08/12/2019 17:53

I cross posted with you, if he’s getting frustrated, he’s probably just on the edge of being able to do it, a done of those times when your back is turned he’ll end up at the other side of the room-honest! These things tend to just suddenly fall into place with babies and they have the hang of it in about 5 seconds flat -honest

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BlueMoon1103 · 08/12/2019 17:55

@PatriciaHolm I’m after tips on how to help him. I’m aware I can’t force him but there are always ways of encouraging things and I was hoping someone on here might know of something I haven’t already tried.

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CointreauVersial · 08/12/2019 17:55

DD1 crawled on one knee and one leg. Looked really awkward, but that was her way of getting about. My friend's DD just bum-shuffled.

There's no rule that says all babies have to crawl in the conventional fashion; if your DS is desperate to get somewhere he'll find a way!

HappyGirl86 · 08/12/2019 17:56

My little girl was the same at 9 months- I can remember being like you, trying to show her how to tuck her legs under etc and she just kept going on her belly. She seemed frustrated. Then she'd be going backwards.
Then literally a couple of weeks later, when she had just turned 10 months she just started crawling no problem.
I realise now there was nothing I could do really to teach her and I feel a bit silly haha!
I guess being frustrated and wanting to do something is what drives kids to push themselves to learn and do new things.
My little girl walked at 12 months, and is now 3 years old and climbs and runs about with no problems!
I know how frustrating it is when people say "don't worry" but they do mean it having been there and knowing these things just suddenly happen and then it's on to the next milestone!
So I won't say don't worry....but you know what I mean haha!

Bippety · 08/12/2019 17:58

OP there's nothing you can do beyond, as it sounds you have been doing, providing him a safe place to practice, and plenty of time on the floor. We bought a toy which spins around and moves which seemed to be a big motivator, but ultimately they won't move until they're ready; and 9 months is well within 'normal' parameters. They get frustrated at most stages, when DS could sit he got frustrated that he couldn't stand, when he could pull to standing he was frustrated he couldn't walk etc. People are saying relax not to be dismissive of your feelings, but because there's not much you can do.

Celebelly · 08/12/2019 18:03

You can't really do anything, he has to work it out for himself. This is the first in a long line of things that he'll get frustrated about trying to learn. It's just a normal developmental process. That's why people are saying not to worry 🤷‍♀️

Hepsibar · 08/12/2019 18:03

My little boy used to sit on his bum and bounce along flapping his hands like a small helicopter. Eventually leaned forward and crawled and walked a bit earlier than big sister but quite late. Learnt to ride bicycle at 3 In later childhood v sporty.

My daughter was a more traditional bum shuffler and I cant really remember her crawling but took a long time to walk and then up with a baby walker. Took a long time to learn to skip and ride a bicycle but an excellent swimmer and half marathons.

So it is very likely your unique little person is doing things their way ... you've got a creative one ... good luck!

Soontobe60 · 08/12/2019 18:07

OP, you’re getting worked up needlessly. You can’t teach a baby to crawl. Either they will if they won’t, he’s very young to crawl. Trying to make him do something he’s not yet able to do doesn’t bode well for how you’ll cope with all the milestones he’s got ahead of him.
Really, leave him to it!

ChaosMoon · 08/12/2019 18:13

DD was doing the same sort of thing - pushing herself backwards, struggling to keep her knees under her and getting frustrated. Then one day, I put her in a dress. DM decided to hold it out of her way as she was trying to encourage her to crawl and thought the dress was making it more awkward. She's was in front of DD so held the skirt forward, effectively bracing her hands against DD's elbows, which meant they couldn't slide backwards. She crawled within the day.

So, get on your hands and knees in front of him and once he's up on his hands, put your hands just behind his arms to stop him pushing back. If he's ready, that might be the help he needs. (I hope I've explained that clearly.)

Good luck!

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BlueMoon1103 · 08/12/2019 18:13

I’m not trying to ‘make’ him do anything, I’m trying to help him do something he wants to do, there’s a difference. I’m pretty experienced with young children and I’m aware there are always ways of helping them learn, that’s all I’m trying to do, as I said before, I was hoping someone might have a technique I haven’t thought of yet!

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BlueMoon1103 · 08/12/2019 18:14

@ChaosMoon thank you! I’ve not tried that yet so I’ll give it a go!

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ChaosMoon · 08/12/2019 18:15

Also, check out www.mamaot.com I'm sure there were some helpful tips on there for helping kids achieve different physical milestones.

itcoldoutside · 08/12/2019 18:15

He will crawl in his own time .. he needs to build up a certain strength and muscle to crawl . Off course he wants too but he will when ready . You can't force these things

itcoldoutside · 08/12/2019 18:16

If you were experienced with children you would understand he needs to figure it out himself

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