Parenting comments

[dietcoke2020]

What do you do/say when your mother and father in law constantly criticise your parenting? Father in law has just told me I have no idea as I said my 18 month old is happy just drinking water and doesn't need juice.

Mostly,You smile your sweetest smile,as if you're really listening and ignore him
You have to pick your battles and don’t expend energy arguing over the wee stuff
By all means where it matters,and is significant you firmly answer back
And do ignore all the mn advice that you obliterate with a pithy putdown
Did you mean to be so rude? will not render an adult quivering and apologetic, compliant,it really won’t

Stop spending any time with them, for one.

My kids at 18mth drank water, milk.nowt else. It’s a good strategy
They don’t need juice,it’s not essential. And you need to dilute fruit juices due to acid content
Being a parent you’ll be subjected to the “wisdom” and “did me no harm” and “in my day comments”

Definitely spend less time with them. If my parents spoke to my dh like that I would be livid

Don’t be so daft @Aquamarine1029
if the grandparents only flaw is that they dish out bad advice that can be managed

@RedLipstickHighHeels

If it's "daft" to refuse to spend time with people who openly disrespect and deride me in front of my child, I'm fine with that. It's sad you have such low standards for how people treat you.

Lol Low standards I’m not biting,nope. Too obvious, crass and provocative 🙄
It is about balance I wouldn’t deny contact or reduce seeing gp on basis of ill considered comments
The op will know is it tutting &. comments or is it significant undermining

If it’s the latter then yes she needs to address and chose a suitable strategy

Ignore them.
My grandmother told me I was starving my poor child, that he looked like one of "them off the adverts", and that I should give him a sausage. He was 3 months old.

@RedLipstickHighHeels

It’s not ‘bad advice’ to tell someone they haven’t got a clue with regard to their own child

Smile and ignore

On the contrary it’s certainly not good advice to tell someone they haven’t got a clue with regard to their own child

I don't think it's that big a deal though to stop them seeing their grandchildren. That's quite extreme.

My kids GP tutted,eye rolled,about all the new fankled advice
Why can’t you put a wee drappie in the bottle? Offering Sausage roll at 3mths
Doesn’t make them bad GP nor does it warrant an cease & desist notice