I spilt up with my ex nearly a year ago now, we spilt up due to him being emotionally abusive and sometimes physically even to the point he'd punch when I had hold of my daughter ( I feel ashamed for even saying that) for apparently having an attitude when I didn't and pulled me down the stairs by my legs before today cos I threw an empty bottle of water at him for saying things about our daughter cos he has to watch her for a while when I went out with family. That was all at the start he did get better with the baby for instance he knew how to look after her the more she got older. When we spilt anyway it was because he'd been in my face pointing in my face and threw my food from my leg across the room so I'd had enough I stood up to him and shouted back at him, he then punched me in the face now he says he just gave me a "little tap" those are his words it wasn't a little tap the lump, the bruise, the marks and now scar I have on my cheek from damaged tissue that wasn't there before but it wasn't a full on punch he says. That's just a little bit he's always said it was my own fault, police was involved but I ended up retracting my statement as I didn't think anything would happen and it didn't anyway, I sent photos and everything to police and apparently wasn't enough evidence. When we spilt we agreed he'd have her weekends as he works all week which is fair enough he stuck to that till the summer, now he's only been having her one night a week and constantly changing it from a Friday to a Saturday night whenever it suites him, my daughter sobs her eyes out whenever she has to go with him and it breaks my heart. He's had his new girlfriend for about two months which he sees about 4 times a week, I don't understand how a man who apparently loves his daughter as much as he says can see his partner more than his daughter? I understand people have to live their life but what about being apart of ur daughters life properly? I feel like he just picks an chooses when it suites him to see her, even when he has her his dads girlfriend messaged me and tells me she's had her for a few hours cos he's gone the gym or on a run surely those 20 hours a week you see ur daughter you wanna spend every min with? And anyway the whole point of me posting this is I don't know what to do am I being unreasonable and selfish stopping him seeing his daughter unreal he realises how lucky he is? I mentioned Christmas Day to him 2 days ago and said does he want to pick her up at 4 after her dinner so she can open her presents and they can see each other and he said he will see her Boxing Day? Like what? That reminds me even last Christmas he picked her up about 5ish and dropped her off 20 mins later cos he couldn't be bothered and I found out the next day he went out until the next day (drinking) I missed a job interview on Friday as I had no body to watch my daughter for 20 mins (he knew this) he took the day to be off work hungover and to stay in bed with his girlfriend instead of asking to have his daughter while I go for my job interview. Maybe I'm just a crank but I feel like this is the last straw I honestly can't take anymore and I don't know what to do as he's threatening me with court (pathetic) but if someone had told me I can't see my daughter and I knew where they lived I'd be straight there!! And he isn't! He's just doing nothing but threatening me with court. I know I'm not the only person going through the same thing with ex partners I just need some advice please from anyone even tell me I am wrong I just need some guidance. 