4yr old and bedtimes

[Littlepigsmig]

Our DD constantly gets out of bed once we have settled her. We have the same routine each night, yet nothing we do keeps her in bed. She'll be out of bed 4/5 times before finally settling often not going to sleep until 90 minutes past her bedtime.

She is then tired in the morning and when I collect her from school or the childminder she looks shattered.

I know this may be a phase and all kids do it, but I'm worried that she's tired because of it and want her to get the sleep she needs.

Any tips?

When one of mine went through a phase of this, I had success with what I call the “100 walks”. Let your DD come out of her room and then walk her back to bed a zillion times, as many times as it takes. When she gets out of bed don’t get speak to her. Simply take her hand and walk her back to bed. After several nights my DD got the point and stayed in bed. I combined this with a sticker chart for every night that she stayed in bed.

Yep, don’t engage with her, straight back to bed, she’ll get the message.

Don't talk to her at all. Just take her straight back to bed.
Ignore the pleads for drinks, hugs etc.
Be very consistent.
You may have to walk her up 30 times so be it.
If it takes 90 mins and she's only been up 5 times I guess in between your talking , negotiating , pleading , telling off or pandering to her demands. Stop that as you're feeding it.
It does work. You have to be consistent. If you stop or give in you have set the bar as to how far she goes until you give in.
Have a 15 min bedtime routine and stick to it every night. No staying up later because it's holiday or weekend for a while until it's really set in.

Thanks all, I do talk to her so I need to take your advice and just put her back in bed and stop communicating until she gets it.
May also do the sticker chart, she loves a sticker so that may work (fingers crossed)
She was shattered this morning when we got her up for school, it's her first year and I know they get tired as the end of term comes, but the lack of sleep won't be helping her either.

Maybe Santa Claus can send her a letter telling her he needs to know if she should have big girl presents and she needs to show him she is a big girl by staying in her bed.

My 4yo has audiobooks on once we leave the room and I say she doesn't have to fall asleep but she does have to lie and listen to the audiobook. She always just falls asleep

My almost four year old had audiobooks for a while or an I angination story which I made to as she was snuggling into bed.
After about a month of these she has been getting into bed and falling asleep beautifully.
She was a terrible sleeper until three

Agree with other poster, you need to go all Supernanny on her. Keep on putting her back to bed, no talking, low lights. You may have a few days of hell, but you've got to keep it up until she accepts that bedtime is just that.

My DS sometimes has audiobooks to go to sleep, he really likes 'The Rabbit Who Wanted to Go To Sleep' book. Still, I found he needs that more in the Summer when its light at night and he's less tired in the holidays. At this time of year, ideally she should be tired enough through school to get to sleep on her own.

I have seen others on here say audiobooks actually stimulate their children more, so tread carefully!