bedtimes 11 and 13 yr old.

[citcatgirl45]

I let my 13 and 11 yr old stay up to watch I'm a celeb - ok when I agreed I didn't actually realise that some nights it doesn't finish till 1030. However neither seem particularly tired for staying up later than normal. Usually 11 yr old is 930 and 13 yr old 10pm but some of their friends are in bed by 830pm. Am I too lenient?? With after school activities, scouts and guides, play rehearsals, dinner and bath and showers we are not often finished till 9pm. I like them to have a proper dinner rather than beans on toast and also think it is important for them to have wind down time and sometimes this is watching tv or you tube for 45 mins. They have always done activities after school and they seem to finish later and later as they get older so very hard to stick to an 830pm unless they literally go to bed straight after dinner or when they get home from an activity. They don't have TV's in their room so all TV is watched downstairs together as a family. They get up at 7am no problem and at weekends too and never seem particularly tired. I feel pressured to rush around and stop activities so they can be in bed by 830pm - other parents seems to think sleep should come above everything else, but we are a very active busy family and actually like it that way!!

8.30 seems very early for a thirteen year old. I'd say that all families should do whatever works for them. If they're not tired then there's your answer.

My 11 year olds bedtime is 9.30, she usually falls asleep within 10 minutes. When she’s off school it’s 10.

Mine are upstairs from 8pm lights out for 11yr old at 9. 13yr old self regulates but if either of them don't get themselves up in the morning the bedtime is earlier that night.
We tape IACGMOOH. But they aren't that bothered about catching up

If missing out on an hour or 2 of sleep is not effecting them they’re obviously getting all the sleep they need so doesn’t seem to be an issue. You’re a cool parent! But if they were showing signs of sleep deprivation you’d put them to bed earlier...yes? So then you’re a caring parent too 🙂
They’re your kids and your parenting your way fair play to u!

I think that sounds fine (and btw, beans on toast is a good tea too!).

If they're not tired they're fine. My 12yr old goes to bed at 9.30 and 14yr olds at 10. They are pigs to wake up for school if any later but don't sleep if I make them go earlier. I take phones at bedtime but they do read sometimes.