3year old normal behavior?

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My little girl is 3 she was always a hard baby she was colic and reflux, always so hard constantly crying but competly hyper she was crawling at 5months climbed out of her cot at 10 months .. now at the age of 3 shes worse then ever, shes competly full on , cannot sit still, has to be climbing , upside down on sofa, going round in circles everything shes not ment to, i sit and try and do jigsaws with her she throws them away, try to read book she has no intrest all she wants to do is roll around on the floor, close her eyes go round in circles , her behaviour is out of control, shes constantly on naughty step, tryn so hard to be firm now i do put her in her room she screams at top of her lungs n bangs and stamps her head and feet ..im litrally at the stage i just dunno what to fo with her bringing her on family days out is hardship .. its horrible every days a battle with her , i dont know what iv done wrong for her to be like this its so hard because i feel like i sbould be enjoying my baby not dreading everyday , i spend alot of my time crying its so hard, please anyone , any advice is greatly appreciated Xx

A lot of what you’ve described sounds like my 5yo DS who has ASD. I’m not suggesting your DD does, but as pp have said some of the behaviour sounds sensory seeking - he spends a lot of time bouncing and twirling about trying to get proprioceptive input.

He is very full on, gas never been the child that will sit still and do colouring but will happily play with sensory stuff like kinetic sand and play doh. Our family have been convinced he has adhd because of his hyper nature, but since he’s been diagnosed with asd it all fell into place. regardless of what’s going on with your DD, I’d adjust expectations- dont take her shopping. DS was horrendous in supermarkets and now I realise it was mainly due to sensory overload (lights, sounds, too much to process). I do shipping online, or when hes elsewhere. If we have to pop in for one or two items I tell him exactly what I’m getting, and do a countdown so he knows when we’re leaving. I don’t take him to quiet places and expect him to behave like the other kids - we go to outdoor places or anywhere where he can run about. FWIW he passed his 2 year check with no concerns, he’s a bright kid and does get in well with others but will look right through you like you’re not there. He has problems with listening and following instructions, and emotional regulation. Might be worth you having a chat with the gp - if she warrants further assessment they certainly do look at nursery age kids, DS was referred just before he turned 4. What do nursery say about her behaviour?

If she does not appear to be listening have you had her hearing tested?

Her hearing is fine, its paying attention to listen

I asked about hearing as I was convinced my 3 year old hearing was not right, nursery thought it was fine and GP said because her language skills are advanced then she would have a problem. She does have a hearing issue.