5 children

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Hi I'm new here I have 5 kids there are 3 boys and 2 girls there ages are 14,11,8,3,and 8 month old looking for advise how to keep calm and carry on feeling out of whack at the moment with my hormones one minute up then feeling down.🙄🙄

Hi Op one thing I'm learning I have two DC a DS 2.8 years old and a DD 9 month old is that when it comes to parenting you get your good days and your bad days I find what works for me is that I try and be more organised so I'll have both of their clothes downstairs ready for the next morning so I can at least get them fed and changed straight after waking up.
Lunch times I tend to feed us all the same something quick and finger foods so easy for my baby to feed herself with just me supervising same with my toddler.
Washing gets done daily so I don't have massive pile building up house cleaning so so it's clean and tidy but not extremely clean
Toys I put away end of day no point trying to keep living room clutter free.
I am now getting out more now my DD is older and easier to feed etc when she was newborn I was stuck in more as I have no family living close by so felt it a struggle to go out with them both at first it's getting a lot easier now my DS goes to nursery a few mornings a week and even taking them both to the park is much more easier and enjoyable it does get easier

Do you have a partner or family or close friends that can allow you to have some time on your own to give you a breather?

Hi thanks so much for your reply, I do have family but there busy so don't really have time to help, I'm normally organised in everything I do daily but I feel very exhausted and drained which I put down to sleepless nights and breastfeeding.also my husband works full time so can only help out when he can.i recently had a huge bust up with my sister which isn't helping as we were always close and now we have not spoken in 6 months and don't think we will ever put things right.and to top it all with Christmas round the corner which is a time for families.so my emotions are all over the place and I don't have a second to myself I never stop from when I get up till when I go to bed.

Sorry to hear that can you try and reach out to your sister? I hear you with regards to no family support it's just me and my DH as my family and his live two hours away from us so it is tough going when it's just down to you both and as you my DH works full time and does the best he can so it is exhausting and I can only imagine how exhausting that is for you with 5 children
If your feeling low it might be worth speaking to your GP or even health visitor to see what support they can offer you I know the health visitors around in my area mentioned a service where they could provide you with a contact of another woman who volunteered to come to yours once a week for an hour or two so that you could go out or just have some extra pair of hands to help entertain the children with you there of course and to provide company for you as well adult company it might be worth chatting to your health visitor to see if something like that exists in your area and defiantly see the GP could be iron levels are low you'd be surprised how that can affect your energy levels
I try and take vitamins coffee has become my best friend too these days

Hi I am taking vitamin supplement which hopefully will give me a boost and help me feel better I've never felt low like this before I did see my health visitor and she just put it down to being a very busy mum and that there was no concern from her end. but she did say that breastfeeding can affect your mood and give you strange feelings which is quite surprising as I breastfed my other 2 with no problem.im thinking of taking a Christmas break to see my brother as he lives in Ireland and the getaway might do me good.as he himself has 4 kids and finds it hard going as his a stay at home dad while his partner goes to work.

Defiantly go see your brother for a break be lovely.

I can't comment on the breastfeeding aspect as both mine are/were formula fed but if you do continue to feel low it is worth speaking to your GP they will likely do bloods to make sure iron levels are all good etc really hope you start to feel better soon

Hi thanks so much Im sure in time I will be feeling my normal self again really appreciate you took the time to reply to me. 😊😊