Contact with DS paternal family

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DS is 18 months old and hasn't saw any of his grandparents on his fathers side for 13 months!. ( their choice ). No texts, phone calls , visits, nothing! Not a word. They missed his 1st birthday and everything. This is all despite his father seeing him throughout , it can be weeks between as he cancels a lot but he can't take DS on his own for his behaviour ( I won't go into that ). To be honest DS doesn't know any of them. He saw them at the beginning because I used to make the effort to go to their house with him ( even though my DS father and I werent together ) but then I said they could come visit him at my house one week to see if they would make any and ... absolutely zero! , not a mention of seeing him in 11 months. Should i feel guilty? Not for them because I know I shouldn't and they are the ones missing out, but somehow I do for my DS.

Meant to say 13 months at the end

I don't think you should feel guilty, you've tried to enable a relationship with them for your DS though I can understand why you'd feel guilty on his behalf. I wouldn't bother putting more energy into it, as nice as it would be for your DS to know them. If they get in touch in the future and make the effort to get to know him, I'd be open to that but I wouldn't keep making the effort when it's so one-sided. It's their loss!

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No . As I say in these posts be careful what you wish for . They obviously aren’t interested in your dc so be grateful he won’t remember them.

I do say to my Ds ( 12) we focus on those around us who are interested and make an effort

I will never understand how grandparents can ignore a grandchild. You have done all you can. Their loss.

Just leave them to it. What benefit could they be to him if they aren't interested?