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DD and absent dad

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PumpkinP · 25/11/2019 19:01

I wonder if anyone can advise me on this situation. I am a lone parent to 4 children. Ex left me when I was pregnant with the last child and had 3 older children to look after (oldest who has asd) he never looked back. Has had no contact in over 3 years (all his choice) dd who is the oldest has autism and recently has been struggling with the fact she doesn’t have a father. In fact I would say she’s fixated on it. It doesn’t help that I have very little family, I guess she feels like a piece of her is missing. It’s all she bangs on about. Not necessarily her dad but she seems to want any dad. Keeps asking me to find her a new dad Confused calls her teacher dad, today I picked her up from school and she was crying her eyes out saying she wants her teacher to be her dad. As you can imagine it’s very embarrassing. I’ve tried to explain to her that some children only have their mums and not a dad but that didn’t work as it goes back to well find me a new dad then, or get a step dad Confused, the way she talks you would think I was the only single parent. I really need some advice on how I can get her to accept it? (Just for reference of the thread I have never dated since my ex left so I’m not sure where it’s coning from)

OP posts:
PumpkinP · 25/11/2019 22:32

No one?
Does anyone know of any books or cartoons about single mums? Earlier on she said susie sheep doesn’t have a dad, so trying
To think of other examples to show her

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Areallthegoodnamesgone · 26/11/2019 10:05

Bumping for you, x

Starlight456 · 26/11/2019 11:15

My own DS hasn't seen his dad since he was 3 now 12..

We have had various issues.. I try to be as honest as I can.. He was abusive and we ended up in a refuge so I don't give him all the information.

I tell him some people aren't great parents. He has a half brother dad doesn't see..So I say this isn;t about you it is about him he doesn't see his other DS...

I call it the revolving door question and have built on information as he has got older.

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